Kusiyana Kwakukulu Kokulu Kuthana Pakati Kupanga Chikondi Ndi Kugonana

Ngati mukuganiza kuti pali kusiyana kotani pakati pakupanga chibwenzi ndi munthu wina ndikugonana, mwafika pamalo oyenera.

Mwina simunagonepo ndi anthu ambiri, kapena mwina simunagonepo ndi munthu amene mumamukonda kale, chifukwa chake zimatha kusokoneza!

Pali mafunso ofunikira omwe mungadzifunse pankhani yokhudzana ndi kugonana komanso mnzanu amene mumakonda.





Izi zikuthandizani kudziwa ngati mukugonana 'chabe' kapena ngati mukugawana china chake chapamtima komanso moona mtima ndikupanga chikondi.

1. Kodi pali zomwe zimakhudzidwa?

Anthu ambiri adzakhala atagona ndi munthu wina yemwe samakondana naye kale - kaya ndi chidakwa, kulumikizana ndi 'bwenzi lokhala ndi phindu,' kapena kugonana ndi munthu amene angoyamba kumuwona.



Ndizogonana chabe - ndichinthu chakuthupi ndipo nonse muli pomwepo kuti musangalale.

Kupanga chikondi, komabe, kumakhudzana kwambiri ndikugawana zakukhosi kwanu kudzera muzochita zakuthupi.

Ndizokhudza kulumikizana ndikumverera pafupi ndi wokondedwa wanu, ndipo ndi njira yakuthupi yolumikizira zakukhosi ndi munthu amene mumamukonda.



Mwinanso mudalankhula nawo za momwe zikubweretserani pafupi, kapena mwina ndichinthu chomwe mungachite posonyeza kuti mumasamala.

2. Kodi zimachitika nthawi zonse kapena kuchokapo kamodzi?

Ngati mwangogona ndi munthuyu kamodzi, ndizotheka kuti anali kugonana kokha.

Mwinamwake chinali chinthu chomwe inu nonse munali nacho mu malingaliro pa nthawiyo kukonza mofulumira komwe kunali kosavuta!

Kungakhale kuyima usiku umodzi kapena chinthu choledzeretsa ndi bwenzi lapamtima, koma ndichinthu chomwe chidachitika popanda choyambirira kapena kuganiza.

Ngati mukugona pafupipafupi ndi wina, pali mwayi waukulu kuti mumakondanadi.

Kwenikweni, mukudziwana matupi ndi zokhumba za wina ndi mnzake, ndipo ndizokhudza kusangalala palimodzi kuphunzira zambiri za zomwe wina amakonda pabedi.

Ndizochepa za kudzikonda kuti mupeze zomwe mukufuna, komanso kuti musangalatse mnzanu.

3. Kodi ndizapadera?

Ngati mukucheza ndi anthu osiyanasiyana, kapena munthu amene mukugona naye mukuwona anthu ena, mwina mukungogonana.

Ndikosavuta kugona pomwe mulibe chidwi ndi wina aliyense. Palibe kulakwa kapena kukhulupirika komwe kumakhudzidwa, chifukwa chake mutha kungodzisangalatsa - mosamala, inde!

Ngati ndinu nokha , ndichifukwa nonse mumamva kuti pali china chapadera pakati panu chomwe simukufuna kugawana ndi wina aliyense.

Ngati mumadana ndi lingaliro loti azigawana kapena kusangalala ndi munthu wina, mwina mukupanga chikondi ndipo mumawakonda.

Iwo mwina amamvanso chimodzimodzi za inu ngati akupanganso kusankha mwachangu kuti agawane izi ndi inu nokha.

4. Kodi ndi mbali imodzi kapena yachikondi?

Ngati kugonana komwe mukukhala ndikokhudza inu nonse kupeza zomwe mukufuna, nthawi zambiri mwachangu, zimangokhala ngati mukungolumikizana.

'Kugonana kokha' nthawi zambiri kumakhudza kupeza zomwe mukufuna ndikusangalala ndi mbali yakuthupi. Mwina simukutsimikizira kuti winayo ali komanso kukhala ndi nthawi yopambana!

Ngati nonse mumakhala ndi nthawi yophunzitsana ndikukhala okondana wina ndi mnzake, mukupanga chikondi.

Mwina sichichedwa kuthamangitsidwa, pali kupsompsonana komanso kuyankhula kambiri, ndipo ndimakoma kwambiri kuposa kungogonana ndi munthu amene simumumvera.

Amayang'anitsitsa kwambiri kuwonetsetsa kuti mukukhala ndi nthawi yopambana, nawonso, m'malo mongodziponya okha!

5. Kodi mumalola kuti mukhale osamala?

Mukamagonana mwachisawawa ndi munthu wina, mwina simungakhale nawo enieni.

Mutha kukhala ndi chiwerewere chachikulu, koma simungalole kuti mukhale otetezeka pamaso pawo.

Izi zitha kukhala chifukwa chakuti simumawakhulupirira kwathunthu kapena chifukwa choti simukufuna kugawana mbali yanuyo ndi aliyense.

Ngati mukumverera ngati mutha kuwunika zina mwazomwe mukugonana zomwe simunagawanepo ndi aliyense kale, ndipo mutha kudzilola kuti musangalale ndi nthawiyo, ndizotheka kuti mupange chikondi kuposa kungogonana.

Mumakhulupirira mnzanu ndipo mumamva kuti ndinu otetezeka pogawana nawo thupi lanu ndi malingaliro anu.

Mutha kupeza kuti mumadzidalira kwambiri pamaso panu, kapena mumakhala osangalala kuwauza zomwe mukufuna pabedi.

Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, mudzakhala nawo kwambiri monga momwe mungafunire kuti adziwe zenizeni za inu.

6. Kodi mumamva kuti ndinu okhutitsidwa?

Ngati muwasiya akumva ngati kuti mwagawana chinthu chapadera ndikulola wina kuti awone mbali yobisika kwa inu, mwina mwangopanga chikondi ndi munthu amene mumamukonda.

Msinkhu wachikondi womwewo umatsegula kukhutitsidwa kwambiri kwamalingaliro kuposa momwe angapangire zogonana wamba. Mungamve kukhala otetezeka mu ubale wanu, kudzidalira nokha, komanso kukondedwa kwambiri.

Ngati mwangokhala ndi nthawi yabwino ndikumakhutira ndi kugonana, mwina ndi zomwezo. Mukuyenda mukumva kukhutira, koma osati mwachikondi!

Sipadzakhala agulugufe, simudzaitanira BFF yanu kuti igawane zokoma zomwe mnzanu adakuwuzani, ndipo simukhala ndi nthawi yolota zakukongola kwawo.

7. Kodi mumati 'ndimakukondani'?

Mosadabwitsa, gawo lopanga chikondi kwa wina ndikugawana kumverera koteroko kukhala mchikondi!

Ngati mwanena kuti 'Ndimakukondani' pomwe mukugona ndi munthu, ndichifukwa chakuti mukumveradi izi munthawiyo.

Zingakhale kuti kunena mawu ang'onoang'ono amatsenga atatu aja amatsogolera inu kuti muzipanga nawo chikondi - sizikusowa kunenedwa pakatentha, mwina ndi chiganizo chomwe chikuwonetsa kuti nonse ndinu okonzeka kugawana kumverera koteroko wina ndi mnzake.

Ngati zokambiranazo zikugwirizana ndi zolankhula zonyansa, ndi kugonana kokha!

8. Kodi zimakupangitsani kukhala ogwirizana?

Kugonana mwachisawawa nthawi zambiri sichoncho kutanthauza zambiri kwa munthu aliyense wokhudzidwa, chifukwa chake ndizokhudza kukondoweza kwakuthupi kuposa china chilichonse.

Simungamve kukhala pafupi nawo chifukwa simunagawanirane chilichonse, kupatula matupi anu.

Kupanga chikondi, komabe, ndi njira yakumverera pafupi ndi mnzanu (mwakuthupi, zowona, koma mwamalingaliro, nanunso!) Ndipo nthawi zambiri chimakhala chizindikiro cholimba cha ubale wabwino, wathanzi.

Itha kukhala njira yakuwonetsani nonse kuti mumasamalirana wina ndi mnzake mukamalimbana, mwachitsanzo, kapena kupangitsa wina ndi mnzake kumva bwino pambuyo pa tsiku loipa. Mwanjira iliyonse, ndi njira yolimbikitsira mgwirizano wanu komanso ubale wanu.

9. Kodi mukuthamanga kapena mumatenga nthawi yanu?

Apanso, kugonana nthawi zambiri kumakhala kokhudza kumva bwino, mwathupi. Itha kukhala yothamanga kwambiri komanso yosavuta - zilizonse zomwe zingapangitse kuti muchokere, makamaka!

Chifukwa nonsenu mulipo kuti muzingolumikizana, simukuyenera kunyengerera wina ndi mnzake kapena kuwonetsa kuti mukufunitsitsadi kuthera nthawi iyi limodzi.

Mutha kungobwera, kupeza zomwe nonse mukufuna, ndikupita ku ulendo wanu ...

Ngati mukukhala nthawi yayitali pabedi ndi munthu wina ndipo mukugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu kuti muwonane matupi ndi malingaliro a wina ndi mnzake, ndizotheka kuti mukukondana.

Pochepetsa, mukuwonetsa mnzanu kuti mukufuna kupereka nthawi yanu kuti mudziwe zomwe amakonda!

Ndi njira yowadziwitsa kuti mwabwera chifukwa cha iwo, ndi iwo, ndikuti mukufuna kugawana nawo mphindi ino m'malo mongothamangitsa kuti muthe kupeza zomwe mukufuna.

10. Kodi zimamveka zachikondi?

Kugonana nthawi zambiri kumangokhala kosavuta - nonse mumakopeka ndipo mumamva bwino, bwanji osatero?

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Palibe aliyense wa inu amene angayesetse kuti imveke yapadera kapena yokoma-ndizothupi chabe, ndiye bwanji kuvutikira, sichoncho?

Kupanga chikondi kumangokhudza kukondana - mwina pali makandulo kapena zovala zamkati zogonana. Mwinamwake mwakhala mukumwa ndi kudya mu zomangamanga kuti mugawane mphindi ino wina ndi mnzake.

Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, ngati nonse mukukhazika mtima pansi ndikumangilira, ndizoposa kungogonana. Mumasamala za momwe munthu winayo akumvera ndipo mukufuna kuti azidzimva kuti ndi amtengo wapatali, amadzimvera chisoni komanso amamukonda.

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