Njira 5 Zosakhumudwitsidwa Ndi Zonse Ndi Aliyense

'Ndakhumudwa ndi izi!'

Ndipo mukudziwa chiyani? Palibe vuto.

Pali zinthu zina zomwe tiyenera kukhumudwitsidwa nazo…





Ndakatulo za dziko lomwe tikukhalamo

Muyenera kukhumudwitsidwa ndi munthu amene akukuzunzani.

Muyenera kukhumudwitsidwa ndi munthu amene akuyesera kuti akupezereni mwayi kapena kukukakamizani.



Muyenera kukhumudwitsidwa ndi machitidwe owopsa kapena kuzunzidwa kwa ena.

Kupsa mtima ndi mayankho opweteka ndi ubongo wanu womwe ukukuwuzani kuti izi ndi zinthu zomwe zitha kuvulaza zomwe zimafuna kusintha.

Zachidziwikire, pali mapanga.



Kukhumudwitsidwa nthawi zonse ndikumakhala ndi mkwiyo wokhazikika womwe ungawononge thanzi lanu lamaganizidwe ndi malingaliro.

Kupsa mtima kumeneko kumatha kubweretsa kukhumudwa, kukulitsa nkhawa, kuwononga thanzi lanu, komanso kuwononga ubale.

Ndi anthu ochepa omwe amafuna kuti azicheza ndi anthu okwiya, okhumudwa nthawi zonse. Zimatopetsa anthu omwe sanakwiye, ndipo anthu ambiri sadzakhala pamenepo kwa nthawi yayitali.

Mkwiyo umapangitsanso munthu kukhala wakhungu. Ndipo polankhula ngati munthu wokwiya kale, ndimakhala wokwiya ndikudziyesa ndekha nkhani zakukwiya kudzera munkhani zomwe ndimadya komanso anthu omwe ndimacheza nawo.

Anthu ena ali ndi chidwi chopatsa mkwiyo anthu ngati inu ndi ine chifukwa zimatipindulitsa pa zofuna zawo.

malingaliro okoma oti muchite kwa bwenzi lanu

Mkwiyo ndi kukhumudwa ndi mayankho osavuta pamavuto ovuta. Simuyenera kuyesa kumvetsetsa wina aliyense mukakwiya. Muli ndi mdani weniweni, akulakwitsa, ndipo mkwiyo wanu ndi kukwiya kwanu ndizoyenera!

Ngakhale pomwe sali. Ngakhale mutakhala olakwika.

Kukhala mumkhalidwe wotere wa mkwiyo ndikulakwitsa ndikusinthira kudzilamulira kwa iwe wekha, malingaliro ako, ndi malingaliro ako kwa wina.

Munthu winayo atha kukhala woyeserera akuyesera kuyendetsa ndalama zotsatsa kapena wofunitsitsa kuyesera kukugwiritsani ntchito ngati chida cholimbana ndi adani awo. Mwanjira iliyonse, anthu awa alibe zofuna zanu.

Kodi tingapewe bwanji zimenezi?

1. Fufuzani ndikumvetsetsa mbali inayo ya mfundoyo.

Njira imodzi yosavuta yosonkhezera anthu ndiyo kuwauza zomwe akufuna kumva.

Ngati mukufuna kukwiya ndikukhumudwitsidwa, ndiye kuti wopanga uthengawu akuyenera kukupatsani mauthenga omwe amatsimikizira kukwiya kwanu komanso kukwiya kwanu. Ndizovuta momwe zimakhalira.

Ndizosavuta kuwona pamene wina akuchita izi pamene mukudziwa zomwe muyenera kuyang'ana. Ndipo zomwe muyenera kuyang'ana ndi mbali ina ya mkanganowo.

Munthu yemwe akuyesera kuti ateteze zomwe mukumva azitha kutengeka ndikunyalanyaza, kuwotcha, kapena kuwonera mbali inayo ya mkanganowo. Mwachitsanzo…

“Pepo ndi mtundu wopambana kwambiri padziko lapansi! Ndi yakuya komanso yobiriwira! Mtundu womwe mutha kudzitayira mosavuta! Chobiriwira? Chobiriwira ndi zinyalala! Ndi osaya! Opusa okha ndiwo obiriwira! ”

Mawonekedwe amtunduwu ndi malingaliro achikhulupiriro oyipa omwe amadziwika kuti a “Kukhala wopanda nzeru.”

Yemwe akutsutsana akukoka zobiriwira ngati utoto woyipa kwinaku akuyankhula zofiirira kuti akhale chinthu chachikulu kwambiri. Icho chimanyalanyaza zabwino zilizonse zomwe zobiriwira zimakhala nazo komanso zolakwika zilizonse zofiirira.

Anthu omwe ali okonda mwakhungu komanso omvera zofiirira adzalumpha uthenga wamtunduwu chifukwa umatsimikizira kuti utoto ndiutoto wabwino kwambiri, ngakhale utakhala.

Wokamba nkhani kapena uthenga womwe ukufuna kukopa anthu omwe amaganiza kuti utoto ndi utoto wabwino kwambiri ukhoza kusewera molunjika kuzikhulupiriro zawo ndikuwonjezera mkwiyo wawo.

Kumbali inayi, ngati mungapeze nthawi yophunzira za kutsika kwofiirira komanso chowonadi chokhudza zobiriwira, mungaone kuti simukhumudwa nazo.

Ngati mukuchoka pachidutswa chawailesi yakanema mukumva kutengeka kwina, mwina zapangidwa kuti zizikutulutsani zoterezi kwa inu, ogula.

2. Kumbukirani munthu amene wanena mawuwo.

Chosangalatsa kwa anthu ndi momwe zochitika zathu zingapangire zomwe timakhulupirira komanso momwe timagwirira ntchito ndi dziko lapansi.

Chikhalidwe chomwe munthu amakulira chimatha kuyala maziko andale, zikhulupiriro zachipembedzo, ndi mikhalidwe.

Ikhozanso kukhala ndi mgwirizano wolakwika. Munthu yemwe wakulira muchikhalidwe chomwe chimakhudzidwa ndi cholakwika china akhoza kuchikana mwamphamvu ndikusunga malingaliro ake mpaka atakula.

Koma nthawi zina sizikhala za chabwino ndi cholakwika. Nthawi zina zimangosiyana malingaliro momwe timaganizira kuti dziko lapansi limagwira ntchito potengera momwe tidadziwira.

Mutha kudzipeza nokha okhumudwitsidwa ndi zikhulupiriro kapena malingaliro amunthu chifukwa mwakhala ndi malingaliro awiri osiyana.

Munthu ameneyo akunena malingaliro awo atha kukhala akuyesetsa kukhala munthu wabwino, kuchita zomwe akuganiza kuti ndichabwino kuchokera pazomwe adakumana nazo.

ndikufuna chikondi kuchokera kwa bwenzi langa

Ganizirani mawonekedwe a munthu amene akuyankhula zomwe mukuwona kuti ndizonyansa. Kodi ndi munthu amene angayesetse kuvulaza? Kapena kodi amangosiyana pamalingaliro momwe angapezere zotsatira zofananira?

Kodi akumvetsetsa kwathunthu zomwe akunena? Mwina atha kudziwa zinazake zomwe inu simukuzidziwa zomwe zingasokoneze malingaliro anu!

kangati chibwenzi ndi chibwenzi chimawonana

3. Sankhani nkhondo zanu mwanzeru.

Umbuli ndi mliri pa umunthu womwe sudzatha. Kungoti sangatero.

Mutha kukhala ndi maphunziro onse komanso mwayi padziko lapansi kuti wina aphunzire, koma anthu ena safuna.

Amakhala omasuka pachinthu chawo chaching'ono chomwe adadzipangira okha ndipo safuna kuwononga izi.

Akhozanso kukhala anthu omwe amasangalala ndi mkwiyo komanso mikangano. Anthu amenewo aliponso. Poyamba ndinali mmodzi wa iwo. Sizinali zazikulu kukankhira mabatani amunthu kuti awawone akukwiya popanda kanthu. Sanachite kunditsimikizira kapena kundikonza chifukwa sindinasamale kuti ndikudzudzulidwa.

Uku ndiye kusiyana kofunikira. Pali nkhondo zopanda malire zomwe zikuyenera kumenyedwera anthu oponderezedwa ndikuwongolera zoyipa zina zaumunthu. Koma ndinu munthu m'modzi yekha munyanja yamasautso osatha.

Nthawi iliyonse mukasankha kukhumudwitsidwa, sankhani kuvomereza mkwiyo, mumakhala kuti mumapereka gawo laling'ono lamaganizidwe anu. Chitani izi mopitirira muyeso ndipo mudzadzipeza mutatopa kwambiri, mwachangu kwambiri.

Ndipo sizomwe dziko likufuna. Zimafunikira anthu omwe amatha kukonza zinthu ndikugwira ntchito kuti apange zinthu bwino.

Kusintha kwenikweni kumatenga nthawi - nthawi yayitali. Ngati mukufuna kumaliza mpikisanowu, muyenera kusamala ndi komwe mumagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zanu zochepa ndikukhala ndi nthawi yokwaniritsa.

Sankhani nkhondo zanu mwanzeru. Dzifunseni ngati pali zabwino zilizonse zomwe mungapeze mukakhumudwa ndikukangana.

Ndinu amene mudzayenera kunyamula nyonga imeneyo pambuyo pake. Munthu amene mukumenyana naye mwina sangasamale.

Pumirani kwambiri, ganizirani momwe zinthu ziliri kapena ngati mungapeze zabwino, kenako sankhani zomwe mungachite mukatha kuziganizira.

4. Simuyenera kukwiya kapena kukhumudwa kuti mumenyane.

Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, anthu amakonda kufananiza mkwiyo wawo ndikuchita. Sizofanana ngakhale pang'ono.

Dziko lili m'malo ovuta, ndipo nthawi zonse padzakhala magulu omwe azigwira ntchito kuti dzikoli lipindule ndi anzawo.

Simuyenera kukwiya kapena kukhumudwa kuti muzindikire izi kapena kulimbana nazo. M'malo mwake, zimakhala bwino ngati simuli chifukwa chakwiya chimachititsa khungu. Ndipo mukakhala wakhungu, mumalakwitsa zinthu zomwe simukadakhala kuti mukadakhala ndi nthawi yochotsa malingaliro anu ndikupeza malire.

Zolakwitsa izi zitha kukuwonongerani kupita patsogolo kwamtengo wapatali m'moyo wanu kapena akatswiri, zomwe sizothandiza aliyense.

Kodi chifukwa chanu chimapindulira bwanji ngati mwatopa ndikulephera kuchita bwino? Kodi mungathandize bwanji ngati mukumira kuntchito kapena kutaya ntchito?

Pachifukwa ichi, mukumadzichotsera zinthu zofunikira zomwe zingapindulitse chilichonse chomwe mungakhulupirire.

5. Kambiranani ndi nkhawa zomwe mungakhale nazo.

Pali mavuto ambiri enieni ndi malingaliro onyansa omwe ayenera kukhumudwitsidwa nawo. Komabe, nthawi zina mavuto osadwala amisala atha kukhala chifukwa.

Anthu ena amamva zinthu mozama ndikuthwa mwanjira yomwe anthu ena samvera. Matenda amisala ena amatha kupangitsa anthu kuchita zinthu mopupuluma kapena kuthedwa nzeru ndi zoyipa zakunja.

Ngati mukuwona kuti kukhumudwitsidwa kukulepheretsani kuchita zinthu pamoyo wanu, muyenera kuyankhula ndi katswiri wazachipatala za nkhaniyi ndikuwapempha kuthana ndi maluso zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuyang'anira mayankho anu.

momwe mungachitire ndi anthu omwe sakonda inu

Simukufuna kukhala moyo wanu wokwiya, wamantha, kapena wokhumudwa. Muli okhoza kutengeka mtima zinthu zisanasinthidwe moyenera.

Kupita patsogolo ndikuchedwa, kukwera nkhondo. Muyenera kusamalira malingaliro anu ndi moyo wanu panjira.

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