Zifukwa 7 Zomwe Wokondedwa Wanu Amalephera Kukondana + Zoyenera Kuchita Pazomwezi

Mukadzipeza nokha mukukumana ndi vuto lamiyala, mwina mungadabwe kuti mwachita chiyani kuti muyenerere kutero.

Kupatula apo, kuletsa chikondi ndichinthu chankhanza kwa mnzanu kuti achite.

Zimatengera cholinga chathu chofunitsitsa chibwenzi ndi kulumikizana kuchokera kwa omwe timawakonda ndi kuwasamalira.





Kuletsa kutengeka kwamaganizidwe kumagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi anthu ambiri pamlingo winawake, koma pali ena omwe amachita izi pafupipafupi.

Kodi nchifukwa ninji amachita izi? Nchiyani chimawapangitsa kuganiza kuti iyi ndi njira yoyenera kutsatira?



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Tiyeni tione zifukwa zina zotheka.

1. Sangodziwa momwe angathanirane ndi mikangano moyenera.

Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kubisa chikondi ngati njira yothetsera kusamvana kapena kusagwirizana komwe mwakhala nako.

Amabwerera m'mbuyo chifukwa sakudziwa chochita china.



Sanaphunzire njira zina zabwinobwino zothetsera kusamvana komwe kumachitika anthu awiri atakumana kuti apange chibwenzi.

Chifukwa chake amatenga njira yosavuta: amakupatsani phewa lozizira.

Sizitengera khama kuti muchotse malingaliro awo chifukwa zimakugogomezani kuti mukonze.

Amangofunika kumamatira ku mfuti zawo mpaka mutayamba kuyanjanitsa.

2. Amakana kutenga udindo pazolakwa zawo kapena zophophonya zawo.

Pamafunika kulimba mtima kuti uvomereze wekha kuti walakwitsa zinazake, kapena kuti walakwitsa zinazake.

Zimatengera kulimba mtima nthawi zambiri kuvomereza izi kwa wina.

Wokondedwa wanu sangakhale ndi kudzichepetsa kofunikira kuti akhale ndi zolakwa kapena zofooka zawo.

Amatha kufuna kuwoneka angwiro kapena 'olondola' mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, ndikusungabe mawonekedwe awa, sangasangalale ndi lingaliro loti anali olakwa.

Ndizomveka, ndiye, kuti akuyenera kukhala inu omwe muli ndi vuto, ndipo sangakukondwereni mpaka mutavomereza izi ndikupepesa.

3. Anaphunzira khalidweli kuchokera kwa makolo awo.

Sikuti aliyense ali ndi mwayi wokwanira kukula ndi makolo omwe ali ndi njira zothanirana ndi mavuto omwe ana amakumana nawo.

Mwamwayi makolo ena amatsata zinthu monga kuwanyengerera kuti alange ana awo kapena kuwapangitsa kuti azichita mwanjira inayake.

Anawo amatha kukula ndikuganiza kuti ndi momwe mumachitira ndi anthu.

Amatha kukhala anthu omwe amaletsa kukondana ndi anzawo chifukwa ndi momwe amachitidwira ali mwana.

4. Zinawathandizapo kale.

Mosasamala komwe njirayi yachokera pakumenyanako, ngati adaziwona zikugwira ntchito m'mbuyomu, ali ndi mwayi woziyambanso mtsogolo.

Ndi nkhani ya: ngati silinaswe, osakonza.

Zachidziwikire, amatha kuwona kuthekera kwakubisalira kwamalingaliro mkati mwazomwe zikuchitika pakadali pano. Amanyalanyaza kumvetsetsa momwe zimakhudzira ubale wawo.

Ndipo atha kugwiritsa ntchito njirayi pachibwenzi pambuyo pa chibwenzi, osazindikira kuti imathamangitsa anthu ena.

5. Amawona kuti akuyenera kuyang'anira chilichonse.

Kusanyengerera ndi njira yodziletsa.

Ikuuza munthu winayo kuti: 'Ndasankha kuti mwandilakwira, ndipo sindikuwonetsa chikondi changa kwa inu mpaka mutapepesa kapena mutandipangira.'

Izi zikuyika chidwi chanu chonse kuti muchitepo kanthu moyenera yomwe ndi njira yawo yokulamulirani.

Ngati mnzanuyo amakonda kulamulira chilichonse m'moyo wawo momwe angathere, sizosadabwitsa kuti amatengera njira yozizira yamapewa.

6. Akufuna kukulanga.

Pomwe kuletsa malingaliro nthawi zambiri kumagwiritsidwa ntchito kuti munthu apeze zomwe akufuna, itha kugwiritsidwanso ntchito ngati chida.

Ngati wokondedwa wanu akumva kuti wakwiyitsidwa kapena wakhumudwitsidwa ndi zomwe munena kapena kuchita, atha kudana nanu kuti akupweteketseni.

M'malingaliro awo, izi zikuyenera kukupangitsani kumva chisoni ndi zomwe mwachita ndikuchita mosiyana mtsogolo.

Amatha kuziwona ngati zofanana ndi tcheni chotsamwitsa kapena kolala yamagetsi kuti akonze machitidwe osafunikira agalu.

7. Ali ndi vuto la umunthu.

Zakale za munthu - makamaka ubwana wawo - zimatha kubweretsa zovuta zamitundumitundu.

Zina mwazomwezi zimapangitsa kuti kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwakanthawi kochepa kungachitike.

Narcissists ndi iwo omwe ali ndi Borderline Personality Disorder, mwachitsanzo, ali ndi nkhawa zochepa, chifukwa chake amatha kuchita zomwe zimapweteketsa kapena kukhumudwitsa ena.

Mwinanso mungakonde (nkhani ikupitirira pansipa):

Kodi kuletsa chikondi ndi mtundu wina wakuchitira nkhanza?

Tsopano popeza tasanthula zina mwazifukwa zomwe munthu amalepheretsira wokondedwa wawo ziwonetsero zachikondi, tiyenera kufunsa: uku ndikuzunza?

Monga tafotokozera kumayambiriro kwa nkhaniyi, anthu ambiri amachita izi. Koma pali zovuta zingapo.

Anthu ena amatenga nthawi kuti akhazikike pambuyo pa mkangano ndikusintha zomwe zidachitika. Sangakonde kukhala pafupi mwakuthupi kapena mwamalingaliro ndi wokondedwa wawo panthawiyi.

Izi sizitanthauza kuchitira nkhanza anthu.

Kuti muweruze ngati zasanduka nkhanza, muyenera kufunsa izi:

- Ndani munthu woyamba kupereka nthambi ya azitona? Ngati nthawi zonse mumakhala inu ndipo simumawakonda, mwina ndi nkhanza.

- Amapepesa? Ngakhale mutakhala kuti nthawi zonse mumayenera kupepesa koyamba, ngati akubwezera ndikuwoneka kuti alapa zenizeni, sikungakhale kuzunza.

- Amakhazikitsa nthawi? Ngati angakuwuzeni kuti sakugonana nanu sabata limodzi, mwachitsanzo, akufuna kukulangani, ndipo uku ndikuzunza.

- Kodi ndi momwe amachitira nthawi zonse ndi mikangano? Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye kuti zikuyenera kukhala zankhanza.

chifukwa chiyani anthu samandikonda

- Mumachita zinthu zomwe simumva bwino nazo kuti musangalatse? Ngati mukuyenera kunena kapena kuchita zinthu zomwe simukufuna, ndi njira yowongolera komanso yochitira nkhanza.

Ngakhale sikuti nthawi zonse zimakhala zakuda kapena zoyera ngati kuzunzidwa kwamalingaliro kulipo, mudzadziwa m'matumbo mwanu ngati zomwe mukukumana nazo ndizopweteka.

Zomwe muyenera kuchita mnzanu akakanika kukondana.

Ndizovuta kudziwa momwe mungayankhire kwa wokondedwa amene akulepheretsa chikondi, ngakhalenso kukondana pafupipafupi.

Kupatula apo, simukufuna kulimbikitsa khalidweli pobwerera m'mbuyo ndikubuula kukhululukidwa kwawo.

Koma, nthawi yomweyo, mwina simukufuna kutengapo gawo mwanu momwe mungasungire kutengeka mtima.

Nazi zina zomwe mungachite m'malo mwake.

1. Sankhani momwe angaganizire ndikumverera za machitidwe awo.

Muli ndi zambiri zakulankhula zakukhosi kwanu kuposa momwe mumadzipangira mbiri.

Wokondedwa wanu atakutalikirani chifukwa cha zomwe mukuwoneka kuti munena kapena kuchita, mutha kusankha kukhalabe ndi malingaliro abwino.

Pamafunika kuchita, koma mutha kuzikumbutsa kuti Ndinu gwero lanu lenileni la chisangalalo ndi chikhutiro. Zomwe mnzanu amachita ndizosankha zawo ndipo kusankha kwanu ndikuti musalole kuti zikukhudzeni.

Gawo lofunikira ndikuzindikira kuti simuli olakwa pakusankha kwawo ndi machitidwe awo. Ngakhale mutakhala mukusagwirizana, momwe mnzanuyo wachitiramo sikudalira inu.

Simukuyenera kulandira chithandizo chotere - dzikumbutseni za izi nthawi zambiri.

2. Pitirizani kukhala okoma mtima ndi osangalatsa kwa wokondedwa wanu.

Njira imodzi yokhazikitsira kunyumba malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu ndikupitiliza kuchitira mnzanu chisamaliro chimodzimodzi momwe mumakhalira.

Zowonadi, sangabwezere pachiyambi, kapena ngakhale kuvomereza zochita zanu kukhala zokoma mtima.

Koma mukawawonetsa kuti simudzakhudzidwa ndimachitidwe awo obisira, ayenera kuyamba kucheza nanu.

Zimatha kukhalabe zachisanu poyamba, koma pakapita nthawi, zinthu zimabwerera mwakale.

Sadzakambanso zomwe zachitikazo, ndipo mwina ndibwino kuti muzilolenso kuti zichitike - muyenera kusankha momwe muliri omasuka ndi mtundu uwu wamaganizidwe (kapena osagwirizana momwe ulili).

3. Tengani gawo pazomwe mwachita nawo mkangano uliwonse.

Pomwe kusunga chikondi ndi njira yopanda thanzi yolimbana ndi mikangano, imakhala njira ya mnzanu.

Koma izi sizikuthandizani kuti mukhale ndiudindo. Kungoti akuchita motere poizoni, sizitanthauza kuti mulibe chilichonse chomumvera chisoni.

Mukanena kapena kuchita kena kake kuti muwonjezere cholakwa chawo ndikupweteketsa - ngakhale zitakhala kutentha kwakanthawi - khalani okonzeka kuyimirira, kuvomereza izi, ndikupepesa chifukwa cha izo.

Mwina sizingawasangalatse nthawi yomweyo, koma zithandizira kuti izi zitheke.

Khalani otsimikiza kuti simukungopepesa kuti mupezenso chikondi ndi chisamaliro chawo. Ngati simunachite cholakwika chilichonse, ndibwino kungokhalira kutsatira njirayi m'mbuyomu.

4. Yang'anani pa mankhwala - onse olumikizana komanso munthu payekha.

Akatswiri ovomerezeka azaumoyo ndi alangizi othandizira maubwenzi ali ndi zida zambiri zothetsera zovuta monga kuletsa chikondi kuposa zomwe tsamba lililonse lingapereke.

Chifukwa chake pomwe upangiri pano udapangidwa kuti ukhale wothandiza kwa aliyense, anthu ena ndi maanja apeza kuti akuyenera kupeza chithandizo choyenera kuthana ndi mavuto awo.

Wothandizira maanja angakuthandizeni kufotokoza zodandaula zanu m'malo otetezeka komanso opindulitsa. Zomwezo zimapita kwa mnzanu.

Atha kupereka njira zothanirana ndi mikangano yathanzi komanso kulumikizana bwino.

Onse inu ndi mnzanuyo mungafunefune chithandizo chamankhwala osiyana kuchokera kwa sing'anga.

Atha kuthandiza mnzanuyo kupeza chomwe chimayambitsa machitidwe awo ndikupatseni njira zosinthira pang'onopang'ono.

Ndipo atha kukuthandizani ndikuwongolera pazomwe mchitidwe wa mnzanu ungayambitse ndi malingaliro anu.

5. Yang'anani ubale waukulu.

Monga tafotokozera m'gawo loyambirira la nkhaniyi, pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe wokondedwa wanu angasankhe kuti asakukondeni.

Koma kutengera kukula kwa machitidwe awo, mutha kusangalalabe ndi zomwe amabweretsa patebulo laubwenzi.

Mwina, inde, amagwiritsa ntchito chikondi ngati njira yolamulira kuti achite zomwe akufuna, koma amakhala achikondi komanso osamala pomwe angafune.

Zachidziwikire, mwina sangakhale masomphenya aku Hollywood achikondi kapena achikondi, koma sizingatanthauze kutha kwa zinthu.

Anthu ndi zolengedwa zosokonekera, ndipo zina mwazo zimakhala zovuta kuthana nazo.

Zili ndi inu kuweruza ngati mfundo zabwino zikuposa zoyipa, kapena mosemphanitsa.

6. Ngati nkhanza zoterezi sizichitikachitika ndipo ndi zoopsa, asiye iwo.

Mukayang'ana ubale wonsewo, simungapeze zochepa zoyamikira.

Sikuti aliyense amatha kukhala ndiubwenzi wabwino, wolimba, ndipo mnzanu atha kukhala m'modzi mwa iwo.

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Ngati khalidwe lawo silikuyenda bwino - kapena likuipiraipira - ndipo likuwononga kudzidalira kwanu komanso kudzidalira, muyenera kulingalira zothana ndi chibwenzicho.

Mulibe ngongole iliyonse kupatula kulekana komveka bwino komanso mwamtendere.

Kukhazikika kwanu ndikumverera bwino ndikofunikira kuposa ubale uliwonse womwe muli nawo.

Simuyenera kukakamizidwa kuti musinthe momwe muli kuti musangalatse wina.

Ngati mwapatsa ubalewo kuwombera bwino kwambiri ndipo mwawapatsa mwayi wokwanira kuti asinthe njira zawo, yankho lomaliza ili ndiye njira yanu yotsalira.

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