Chibwenzi Pambuyo Pakutha: Muyenera Kudikira Nthawi Yaitali Motani?

Kutha kwa chibwenzi ndi zinyalala zokongola, ngakhale mutakhala inu amene mwaganiza zothetsa zinthu.

Ndikofunika kuti mudzipatseko nthawi chibwenzi chitatha, koma ndi nthawi yayitali bwanji yodikirira musanakhalenso pachibwenzi?

Simudzadabwa kumva kuti palibe nthawi yoti mudikire musanakwatiranenso, koma pali zinthu zingapo zofunika kuziganizira musanabwerere ku malo obwenzi ...





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1. Pezani kutseka.

Kaya mwamaliza zinthu kapena ayi, kutseka pang'ono bwanji zinthu zomwe zatha ndizabwino.

Simufunikanso kusaka wakale wanu kuti mupeze yankho, mwina. Mutha kukonza nokha ndikukhala ndi lingaliro lazomwe zinthu zidatha. Zitha kutenga nthawi, koma mukafika kumeneko.



Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake chibwenzi chidatha musanadziponyere nokha. Ndichizindikiro cha ulemu kwa inu nonse komanso munthu woyamba kukhala naye chibwenzi mutatha.

Kutsekedwa kudzakuthandizani kupanga zisankho zabwino kupita patsogolo, m'malo mongofotokozera zakukhosi kwanu pa munthu watsopano, kapena kugwiritsa ntchito wina mwangozi chifukwa mukufunitsitsa kukondana.

2. Dzipatseni nthawi kuti muchiritse.

Zimatengera nthawi kuti udutse wina, ngakhale chinali chibwenzi chanthawi yochepa.



Tikathetsa chibwenzi, sitimangotaya munthuyo, timataya tsogolo komanso ziyembekezo zomwe tidakumana nawo. Maholide omwe tidakonzekera mitu yathu, moyo womwe tidakhumbira, ndikuyembekeza kuti zinthu zikhale zazitali.

Ndi zachilendo kumva chisoni mukamakumana ndi kutha, ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti mudzipatse nthawi kuti mukonze ndikuchira.

Mutha kudzimva kukhala wopanda thanzi, kukhala ndi nthawi yovuta ndi thanzi lanu lam'mutu, kapena kukhala ndi vuto lodzidalira.

Chilichonse chomwe mukumva mutatha kupatukana, tengani kaye nthawi musanapitenso masiku. Mudzadziwa pomwe akumva bwino ndipo simuyenera kuyesa kuithamangira kapena kuikakamiza musanakonzekere.

3. Muthane naye wakale.

Izi zingawoneke ngati zosatheka, koma ndichinthu chomwe mungachite - kapena kuyesetsa, pakadali pano.

Ichi ndi gawo lofunikira kuti muyambe musanayambiranenso chibwenzi, ngakhale simunatero kwathunthu pa iwo poyamba.

Ngati sichoncho, mutha kukhala pachibwenzi ndi wina kuti mumupangitse nsanje wanu wakale (mwina mosazindikira kapena mosazindikira), zomwe sizabwino aliyense.

Yesetsani kupita kumalo abwinobwino ndi wokondedwa wanu musanafike pa chibwenzi, ndipo mupanga zisankho zabwino, zathanzi.

4. Dziyang'anireni nokha.

Tikamayenda mu chisoni (ndi ziwalo zonyansa) zopatukana, titha kumvanso kuti tatayika.

Timadzimvera tokha ndikudzilola kutengeka ngati onse omwe adasweka mtima omwe timawawona m'makanema.

Nthawi imapitilira, koma sitikuwoneka kuti tikupita kulikonse. Miyezi ingadutse musanazindikire kuti malingaliro anu asintha, zochita zanu sizinawapezebe panobe ndipo mukugundabe pa Netflix ndi Ben & Jerry.

Sitikunena za 'masiku omalizira,' koma lembani nthawi m'miyezi ingapo kuti muime ndikuwona momwe mulili kwenikweni kumverera.

5. Lankhulani ndi abale ndi abwenzi.

Zungulirani ndi okondedwa anu ndipo musachite mantha kuwafunsa kuti akuthandizeni - kapena kungoti akhale kampani.

Mukakhala pachibwenzi, mumazolowera kukhala ndi wina, ndipo zitha kukhala zowopsa komanso zachisoni kukhala nokha.

Pemphani anzanu kuti azikhala kunyumba kwanu ngati mwangokhala kumene kumene, pezani munthu woti azikusangalatsani Lachitatu madzulo omwe mumakonda kuchita nawo ziwiya zadothi sabata iliyonse ndi wakale wanu.

Kukhala ndi okondedwa anu pafupi nanu kudzakuthandizani kuthana ndi kusintha kwakukulu kwa kutha kwa banja. Aperekanso chithandizo, chikondi, ndi kutsimikizika, zomwe ndi zina mwazinthu zomwe anthu ambiri amaziphonya pazakale zawo.

Mwa kukhala ndi okondedwa athu odalirika omwe atipatsa zinthu izi, titha kudziwa momwe tikumvera komanso nthawi yomwe tili okonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi.

6. Kumbukirani, si mpikisano.

Mwinamwake mwawonapo china pa Instagram chokhudza wakale wanu, kapena mudamva kuchokera kwa anzanu kuti akukondananso. Dzikumbutseni kuti chimenecho ndi chisankho chawo ndipo sichikukukhudzani.

Simukudziwa ngati ali kwenikweni okonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi, kapena ngati ali ndimakukondani kwambiri ndikuyesera mwachangu kuti ndikuvutitseni. Zowona, zilibe kanthu.

Aliyense amayenda m'njira yakeyake, mothamanga. Simusowa kukhala pachibwenzi kuti mutsimikizire mfundo, ndipo sipayenera kukhala 'mpikisano' wopanda thanzi kuti muthane wina ndi mnzake mwachangu kwambiri.

7. Muziganizira nokha - ayi, kwenikweni!

Zingamveke zachilendo kuti muyenera kuzolowera kukhala nokha musanakonzekere kukhala ndi wina, koma tikhulupirireni, ndikofunikira.

Mukufuna kuwonetsetsa kuti, mukayambiranso chibwenzi, mukuchita izi kuti muwonjezere china chake m'moyo wanu, osati kudzaza chosowa.

Ambiri a ife timadumpha muubwenzi wa 'filler' posachedwa, kufuna kudzaza mpata womwe mkazi wathu wakale wasiya chifukwa timaopa kukhala tokha.

Kulekana kumatha kukhala kwankhanza, koma kumakupatsani mwayi wabwino kuti muzolowere kukhala nokha, komanso kuti mukhale omasuka ndi omwe muli.

Mukamasangalala kwambiri ndi nthawi yokhayokha, mumaiona kuti ndi yamtengo wapatali - chomwe ndi chinthu chomwe mudzagwiritse muubwenzi wanu wotsatira, ndipo ndi malo athanzi kwambiri.

Mofananamo, mumadzaza kwambiri moyo wanu ndi zinthu zomwe mumakonda, ndi zinthu chifukwa wekha, osadalira munthu wina yemwe ungakhale ndipo mwayi wako wopanga mwayi wolumikizana ndi munthu wotsatira yemwe muli naye pachibwenzi ndi wabwino.

8. Sinthani machitidwe anu ndikuphunzira kuchokera kwa iwo.

Mwina chibwenzicho chidatha chifukwa mwasunga kuwononga , kapena chifukwa chakuti simungawakhulupirire konse, ngakhale iwo sanachite chilichonse chosakhulupirika.

Ndikofunikira, komanso wathanzi, kuthana ndi mikhalidwe iliyonse yosavomerezeka yomwe mungakhale nayo pachibwenzi chotsatira - musanathe.

Mutha kuzindikira kuti mudali ndi nkhani zazikulu zakukhulupirirana muubwenzi wakale. Izi sizokayikitsa kukhala kwa okondedwa anu okha, makamaka ngati sanakupatseni chifukwa chodera nkhawa.

M'malo mwake, ndichinthu chomwe chimachokera kwa inu, pazifukwa zilizonse (ubwana, kukanidwa, obera akale, ndi zina zambiri) ndipo ndichinthu chomwe muyenera kugwira kuti zisakhudze ubale wanu wamtsogolo.

Mukakhala ndi nthawi yodzichitira nokha (osati kuti mudali 'vuto' muubwenzi wanu wakale), mutha kuyamba kuganiza zosunthira ndikupita masiku.

9. Yesani madzi.

Chifukwa chake, mukupitilira kusweka mtima kwanu. Sitikukupemphani kuti muyambe chibwenzi chokwanira, koma pali zinthu zingapo zomwe mungachite kuti muwone momwe mumamvera pakubweranso.

Tsitsani pulogalamu ya chibwenzi. Izi zokha zingakupangitseni kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa komanso wokhumudwa, chomwe ndi chizindikiro chakuti simunakonzekere. Komabe, zitha kumveka zowopsa munjira yosangalatsa!

Yesetsani kukhazikitsa zokonda zanu kuti zisaphatikize okondedwa wanu (mwachitsanzo, khazikitsani zaka 31 ngati banja lanu lili ndi zaka 30, chifukwa izi zidzawalepheretsa kubwera ngati ali pa pulogalamu ya zibwenzi!) .

Onani momwe zimamvekera kufanana ndi anthu, kucheza ndi anthu, ndikukhala ndi chibwenzi pang'ono. Ngati akumva kuti ndi odabwitsa, siyani pakadali pano. Mutha kubwerera pamene mwakonzeka. Kapena, ngati mukumva kuti zitha kukhala zosangalatsa, pitani pa tsiku limodzi kapena awiri.

10. Osachisiya motalika kwambiri.

Ngakhale palibe nthawi yoikidwiratu yolira chibwenzi chanu chakale, yesetsani kuti musasiye nthawi yayitali.

Ngati malo anu okha oti mnzanu ndi chaka chimodzi kapena chapitacho, mumakhala pachiwopsezo chowakonda ndikuwatsimikizira kuti mumawakondabe. Mwina simutero, simunakhalepo ndi wina aliyense kwa nthawi yayitali!

Muthanso kupeza kuti ndizovuta kutenganso chibwenzi - izi ndi zabwino, koma mwina sizabwino. Nthawi zina, ngakhale mukuganiza kuti mukufuna kukhala pachibwenzi, mantha anu amakula pakapita nthawi ndipo mumakhala ndi mantha kwambiri kapena kuda nkhawa kuti muchite.

Osathamangitsa, inde, koma musalole kuti muvutike mumtima mwanu ndikudziletsa kuti musasunthike mtsogolo.

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Chifukwa chake, monga momwe mungadziwire - palibe kuwerengera kwasayansi komwe kumatha kudziwa nthawi yoti muyambirenso chibwenzi mutatha.

M'malo mwake, muyenera kumadzimvera nokha ndi zomwe zimakuyenderani bwino - ngakhale ndikubwerera pa Tinder, kapena kubwerera pabedi ndikulira. Zonse munthawi yabwino…

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