Momwe Mungalumikizire Ndi Kugwira Ntchito Ndi Athandizi A Mzimu Wanu

Pakhala pali zokambirana zambiri m'magulu auzimu zokhudzana ndi kugwira ntchito ndi maupangiri amzimu, kupeza 'kutsitsa' kuchokera kwa iwo, ndi zina zambiri.

Koma kwa iwo omwe samadziwa bwino zamatsenga-lankhulani, pakhoza kukhala chisokonezo chokhudza omwe maupangiri awa ali, ndendende, ndi momwe kuwongolera kwawo kumagwirira ntchito.

Tiyeni tiwone ena mwa mafunso omwe amafunsidwa kawirikawiri:





Kodi malangizo amzimu ndi chiyani?

Ili ndi funso lodzaza kwambiri, popeza palibe yankho lomveka kwa ilo.

ndingakondane nanu

Pali malingaliro ambiri osiyanasiyana, kuyambira mizimu ya makolo anu omwe adakhalabe kuti apereke nzeru zawo, kwa angelo othandizira omwe apatsidwa ntchito kuti akuwonetseni kukhala bwino.



Chimodzi mwamafotokozedwe abwino kwambiri amitsogozo amzimu omwe ndidakumana nawo ndi a 'dongosolo lothandizira laumulungu': okoma mtima, osakhala anyama omwe asankha Thandizani ena munthawi yamavuto , kotero amatha kusintha kukhala anthu odabwitsa omwe angathe kukhala.

Kodi pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya maupangiri?

Inde, ndipo ambiri aiwo amatenga mbali zosiyanasiyana m'moyo wanu.

Ena mwa iwo ali nanu pamoyo wanu wonse, akukupatsani chitsogozo chobisika (kapena champhamvu) momwe mungafunikire, pomwe ena amabwera ndikupita kutengera komwe ulendo wanu wamoyo umakufikitsani.



Ganizirani za iwo monga abale apabanja, aphunzitsi, ndi othandizira.

Nthawi zambiri makolo amakhala m'moyo wamunthu kwa nthawi yayitali, kupereka malangizo (ndi chitetezo) zomwe mwina munthuyo sangazidziwe.

Ndiye pali aphunzitsi omwe atha kukhala osasunthika kwa chaka chimodzi kapena ziwiri - monga kusukulu ya galamala - kapena kuphunzitsa mutu umodzi kamodzi.

Ophunzitsa amatha kumangolowa kamodzi kokha kwakanthawi kuti apereke upangiri kapena aphunzitsepo apa ndi apo, koma mukudziwa kuti amakhala nthawi zonse kuti mufikire ngati mungafune.

Kodi malangizo amzimu amawoneka bwanji?

Funso ili likhoza kugwiritsa ntchito nkhani yake yonse, koma ndiyesetsa kulemba mtundu womwe udasinthidwa pakadali pano.

Atsogoleri abwera m'njira zosiyanasiyana momwe angaganizire ndi omwe akuchezeredwa.

Ena amabwera ndikuwongoleredwa ndi okondedwa awo omwe awoloka, kapena makolo omwe amabwera kudzawayang'ana ndikupereka nzeru zawo.

Ena amakumana ndi maupangiri awo ngati nyali zowunikira zomwe zimalankhula nawo m'mawu, kapena 'zimatsitsa' zinthu mwachindunji mwa iwo.

Chomwe chikuwoneka kuti ndi mutu wofala ndikuti maupangiri adzawoneka m'mafomu otonthoza kwa omwe akuyankhula nawo.

Mwachitsanzo, Mkhristu wodzipereka akhoza kuchezeredwa ndi munthu yemwe amamuwona ngati 'mngelo,' kapena wachibale wapamtima yemwe amamukonda ndi kumudalira.

Mofananamo, Wachikunja atha kuwona wowongolera ngati m'modzi wa milungu yomwe amawalemekeza, kapena mzimu wamtundu winawake.

Anthu omwe ali ndi chiyanjano cholimba ndi zamoyo zakuthambo amatha kuyendera kuchezeredwa ndi cholengedwa chomwe chikuwoneka ngati chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe amasilira.

Mosavuta kwambiri, adzawoneka ngati osawopseza komanso omasuka mwanjira iliyonse, chifukwa chake mumamvera zomwe akunena popanda mantha.

Kodi wowongolera anga angakhale nyama?

Ndithudi.

M'malo mwake, anthu ambiri omwe amakonda kwambiri nyama kuposa anthu amakhala omasuka kwambiri ndi malangizo omwe sianthu.

Ndikudziwa anthu angapo omwe ali ndi autism omwe maupangiri awo ali munyama, chifukwa amakhala omasuka komanso amakhala omasuka kulumikizana ndi zinthuzo.

Anthu ambiri omwe amatsata njira za uzimu zapadziko lapansi kapena kukhala ndi zokonda zamatsenga ali ndi zitsogozo zosiyanasiyana zamzimu zomwe amagwira nawo, kutengera zochitika zosiyanasiyana.

Omwe akumva kuti ali pachiwopsezo ndipo akusowa chitetezo atha kukhala omasuka komanso otetezeka akakhala ndi chimbalangondo kapena mnzawo wa nkhandwe yemwe akuwona kuti akuwateteza, mwachitsanzo.

Kwa anthu ena, wowongolera wazinyama atha kukhala mawonekedwe amtundu wamtundu womwe umakhala ndi zomwe amakonda pazokha.

Wina yemwe amanyadira nzeru zake amakhala ndi kadzidzi wanzeru wowongolera. Wina yemwe ali ndi mphamvu yayikulu komanso wokonda kusewera akhoza kukhala ndi gologolo kapena mbalame yanyimbo.

Kodi pali amene angalumikizane ndi wowongolera mizimu? Kapena mukuyenera kukhala ndi malingaliro oyenera pa izi?

Aliyense angathe, inde, koma ndibwino kukhala otseguka pamaganizidwe otero, ndikukhala omasuka, odekha mukamayesa kulumikizana.

Ngati nthawi yoyamba yomwe mufikira maupangiri anu ikakhala pomwe muli pachiwopsezo cha mantha, zimakhala zovuta kuti akufikireni, komanso kuti mumve.

Ndiye pali kukondera kwaumwini. Iwo omwe adaleredwa ndi mantha ochulukirapo pazomwe angatchule zakumwamba, kapena omwe amatsata mosagwirizana ndi zenizeni za sayansi atha kukhala ndi vuto ndi lingaliro la chitsogozo kuchokera kwa mizimu.

Kwa iwo, ngati chitsogozo chikuyenera kugawidwa, chitha kubwera ngati kuwunika kwadzidzidzi kwa nzeru , 'chibadwa chamatumbo,' ngati mungatero.

Mwachitsanzo, tinene kuti pali kholo lomwe mwana wake ali pachiwopsezo.

Ngati kholo ili liri lotseguka ku lingaliro la otsogolera mizimu, atha kukhala ndi wachibale wokondedwa wakufa kapena mngelo akuyankhula nawo ndikuwauza kuti ayenera kupita kukachita X nthawi yomweyo.

Ngati kholo latsekedwa kulumikizana kotereku, atha kukhala ndi mantha mwadzidzidzi komanso kulingalira komwe akuyenera kupita kwa mwana wawo pompano.

Ndi nkhani zingati zomwe mudamvapo za anthu omwe adasintha maulendo awo kumapeto komaliza, kuti angopewa tsoka?

Ndendende monga choncho.

Chifukwa chiyani ndili ndi owongolera?

Kunena zowona, tonsefe tili ndi owongolera chifukwa tonse timafunikira chitsogozo.

Kodi mukudziwa mawuwa: 'Sitife anthu omwe ali ndi chidziwitso chauzimu. Ndife zolengedwa zauzimu zomwe takumana nazo ”?

Monga momwe khanda lobadwa kumene silingakule popanda owasamalira omwe angakwanitse kupeza zosowa zawo zakuthupi, mwana wakhanda wobadwa mwauzimu sangakule popanda anthu omwe angawathandize kuwasamalira ndi kuwongolera momwe angafunikire.

Monga zolengedwa zauzimu, titha kukhala ndi moyo nthawi masauzande ambiri, koma zokumbukira (ngati sizinthu zonse) zimafafanizidwa tikabadwanso m'thupi latsopano.

Tiyenera kudyetsedwa, kutsukidwa, kuphunzitsidwa momwe tingachitire chilichonse, ndipo tili ndi gulu la osamalira - ogwirira ntchito komanso osakhala - omwe amasamalira zonsezi.

Izi ndi zinthu za chikondi chopepuka chomwe chiri pano kuti chikuthandizireni ndikukupatsani chithandizo ndi chitsogozo paulendo wanu wamakono, ngati muwalola kutero.

Mukukhala ndi thupi lino, munthawi iliyonse yomwe mungakumane nayo, kuti muthe kumvetsetsa bwino tanthauzo la kukhala munthu. Kumverera, kukonda, ku khalani ndi chifundo ndi kuzindikira zinthu zonse.

zikusonyeza kuti salinso mwa inu

Padzakhala nthawi zina pamene simukuzolowera, kapena mukuvutitsidwa kwambiri ndi zinthu, ndipo mwina simungakhale ndi anthu ena m'moyo wanu omwe amamvetsetsa zomwe mukukumana nazo, chifukwa chake sangakupatseni malingaliro awo.

Apa ndipomwe malangizo amzimu amabwera.

Popeza adaziwona zonse, adaziwona zonse, ndipo alumikizidwa ndi Onse, ali okonzeka bwino kukuthandizani kupyola chilichonse chomwe mukukumana nacho.

Ndidayesapo kulumikizana ndi omwe anditsogolera m'mbuyomu, ndipo palibe amene adandiyankha. Kulekeranji?

Ili ndi funso lomwe anthu ambiri andifunsa, ndipo kwa 99% ya iwo, yankho ndi ili: chifukwa panthawi ina, munawauza kuti asatero .

Yankho lanu pa izi lingakhale chisokonezo, popeza mwachidziwikire mukuyesera kulumikizana nawo ndikupanga ubale, koma sizitanthauza kuti mwana wazaka zisanu zakubadwa adamva chimodzimodzi.

Ngati otsogolera anu adalankhula nanu muli mwana kapena wachinyamata, ndipo munawauza kuti atseke ndikukusiyani nokha - mwina chifukwa chakuti zoterezi zimasokoneza anthu ambiri - ndiye kuti ndizo zomwe akuchita.

Anthu auzimu Sizingaphwanye ufulu wanu wosankha . Ngati munawauzapo kuti akhale chete, kuti simunkafuna kuti alankhule nanu, ndiye kuti mwina akulendererani koma sangathe kunena chilichonse.

Amalakalaka akanatha kunena zinthu zokuthandizani nthawi ndi nthawi, koma amakakamizika kukhala chete mpaka mutawapatsa chilolezo choti adzalankhule nanu.

Kodi malangizowa ndi owopsa / angandipweteke?

Tengani kamphindi kuti muganizire kuti ndinu munthu wamphamvu amene mukuyenda mozungulira pagalimoto yokongola ya mnofu, yomwe ikukhala ndi moyo kwakanthawi.

Ngakhale ndi makanema ati okhudzana ndi kukhala ndi zina zomwe zakupangitsani kuti mukhulupirire, ayi: maupangiri awa siowopsa, ndipo sangakupwetekeni.

Palibe chomwe chingathe, kwenikweni.

Ndiwe mphamvu yoyera yokhala mthupi, ndipo mphamvu yomwe ndi inuyo ndi yomwe imadzaza selo iliyonse mthupi lanu. Palibe chomwe 'chidzakutengereni,' kapena kuwononga gawo lililonse la thupi lanu, malingaliro anu, kapena moyo wanu.

Ngati mumalumikizana ndi omwe akutitsogolera kwakanthawi kenako ndikusankha kuti simumasuka kuyankhulana nawo, ingowauzani kuti akhale chete ndikukusiyani nokha. Ayenera kutsatira.

Apanso, kubwereza, ndi lamulo lapadziko lonse lapansi kuti sangaphwanye ufulu wosankha .

Ambiri mwa anthu omwe amandifunsa funso ili ndi omwe amachitilidwa nkhanza kapena kuzunzidwa ndi omwe ali pafupi nawo, monga makolo, agogo awo, kapena okwatirana / abwenzi awo.

Popeza anthu omwe amayenera kuwakonda ndikuwateteza mosavomerezeka adawavulaza ndikuwononga chikhulupiliro chawo, chibadwa chawo kuyenera kusamala ndi aliyense amene akuti ndi 'wotsogolera' kapena 'woteteza' aliyense.

Kungoganiza kuti maupangiriwa amathanso kuwakhulupirira, kenako kuwononga.

Yankho losavuta ndiloti maupangiri awa sianthu, ndipo samayang'aniridwa ndi malingaliro amunthu, kapena zofooka.

Alibe zolinga zoyipa zilizonse, komanso samalimbana ndi matenda amisala, kapena kuwonongeka kwawo chifukwa chakupwetekedwa komwe mwina adakumana nako nawonso.

Kodi ndingapeze bwanji maupangiri anga?

Chabwino, amakhala nanu pafupi nthawi zonse, ndiye ngati mukufuna kulumikizana nawo, ingolankhulani nawo. (Ndipo, monga tanenera, adziwitseni kuti ali ndi chilolezo cholankhula nanu nawonso.)

Ngati muli ndi mantha kuti mupezeke nawo, zitha kutenga kanthawi kuti adzidziwitse kwa inu. Kapena, zitha kuchitika nthawi yomweyo.

Mwina mumalota koyamba, kapena mutha kumva mawu ofewa akuyesera kulumikizana.

Ingoyesani kukhala otseguka kuzomwe zikuchitikirazo osati kutseka nthawi yomweyo chifukwa mukuganiza kuti mawu akumva ndi enaake olakwika.

Anthu ena amatengeka ndi lingaliro loti zitsogozo zitha kukhala pomwe ali amaliseche akusamba, akugwiritsa ntchito chimbudzi, ndi zina zambiri, koma kukokomeza kwamtunduwu ndi kwamunthu: apitilira izi, zilibe kulembetsa nawo.

Kodi mumakhumudwa kapena kukhumudwa mukawona mwana akusamba? Lingaliro lomwelo.

Kodi ndimalumikizana bwanji ndi omwe anditsogolera, ndipo kulumikizana nawo kumamveka bwanji? (Ndiyenera kuyembekezera chiyani?)

Pali njira zambiri zolankhulirana ndi maupangiri anu, kutengera momwe akuwonekera komanso momwe mumakhalira omasuka kutero.

Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, nthawi zina chitsogozo chawo chimatha kubwera kudzera mu nzeru kapena m'matumbo, koma si njira zokhazo zomwe angalumikizirane nanu.

Nthawi zambiri, atsogoleri amalumikizana ndi anthu kudzera m'maloto, omwe tidzakambirana posachedwa. Nthawi zina amalankhula nanu mwachindunji, kapena kukuwonetsani zinthu mu diso la malingaliro .

Ngati simukudziwa bwino teremu iyi, tengani kanthawi ndikuwona duwa lofiira, kapena nkhope ya munthu amene mumamukonda. Mutha kuwona izi m'malingaliro anu, m'malo mwa maso anu, sichoncho? Ndipamene zithunzi zomwe akuwonetseni zitha kuwonekera.

Kodi ndingadziwe bwanji kusiyana kwa kulumikizana kwanga kwamaganizidwe, ndi mawu a omwe anditsogolera?

Sindingamuyankhe uyu kuchokera pazondichitikira, popeza ndilibe zokambirana zamaganizidwe.

Zomwe ndingathe ndikupereka upangiri kuchokera kwa iwo omwe atero, ndi momwe mawu awotsogolera awamvekera.

Mutu umodzi wofala ndikuti kucheza kwamaganizidwe kumakhala m'mawu ake, pomwe mawu owongolera amatanthauza zosiyana.

Samalani ndi blah blah akuyenda mozungulira m'mutu mwanu pompano. Zikuwoneka ngati inu, sichoncho? Kapenanso, ngati ndikutsutsa komanso kutsutsana, zitha kumveka ngati kholo lanu kapena mphunzitsi.

Liwu la wotsogolera lidzakhala losiyana - nthawi zambiri jenda losiyana, kapena liwu losemphana ndi lanu - chifukwa chake limadula cholankhulira kuti mumve chidwi chanu.

Mbali ina yomwe imawoneka kuti ikupezeka paliponse ndikuti maupangiri nthawi zonse amakhala okoma kwa anthu kuposa momwe anthu amadzikondera okha.

Kumene anthu ambiri amalankhula zamaganizidwe amakhala ndi zolankhula zopanda pake ('wow, that was stupid, mukuganiza chiyani?' Etc.), owongolera nthawi zambiri amakhala odekha, oleza mtima, komanso osamala.

Ndikumva ngati pali choletsa choletsa wowongolera wanga kuti asalankhule ndi ine. Kodi chingakhale chiyani?

Tengani kanthawi ndikudziwonera nokha momwe mumamvera pakulankhula ndi omwe akutsogolera.

Kodi yankho lanu posachedwa ndi kusakhulupirira? Kapena mantha? Kodi mumamva mayankho osakanikirana okhudzana ndi malangizo?

Nthawi zina, pamene anthu amafikira kuwongolera awo, ndi munthawi yomwe awo kutengeka kuli patali kwambiri , monga nthawi yamavuto kapena kukhumudwa.

Munthawi imeneyi, ngakhale mutapereka maupangiri anu chilolezo choti ayankhule nanu, sangakwanitse kupyola muyeso wamaganizidwe ndi malingaliro omwe akudutsa mwa inu.

Ngati izi zakhala choncho, yesetsani kukhazika mtima pansi ndikuyesera kulumikizana nawo.

Muthanso kutenga kanthawi kuti muganizire kuti zomwe mumakhulupirira zimatha kuthandizira izi.

Makamaka Hollywood yatenga gawo lalikulu pakupangitsa anthu kuti akhulupirire kuti mizimu ndiyowopsa, mizimu yoyipa kapena ziwanda zimabisalira ponseponse, zofunitsitsa kulanda anthu omwe sagonjera.

Zachisoni, izi zapangitsa kuti anthu ambiri azengereza kudalira dongosolo lawo lauzimu chifukwa amangoganiza kuti zoyipitsitsa zidzachitika.

Mwinanso mungakonde (nkhani ikupitirira pansipa):

Kodi ndingafunse bwanji wotsogolera wanga malangizo?

Momwemonso mumapemphanso wina aliyense kuti akupatseni malangizo. Ingofunsani.

Maupangiri athu amakhala pafupi nafe nthawi zonse, chifukwa chake mukafunsa mokweza, akumva. Ngati mumadzidera nkhawa kufunsa mokweza, ndipo mukudziwa momwe wowongolera mzimu wanu amawonekera, khalani ndi nthawi yopumira kuti muwafikire.

Pezani malo omwe simukufuna kudodometsedwa, ndipo yesetsani kukhazika pansi malingaliro anu. Ganizirani kalozera wanu, ndipo muwaganizire momveka bwino momwe mungathere.

Mukakhala ndi chithunzi chowonekera bwino m'malingaliro mwanu, ganizirani momwe mulili, ndipo gwiritsani ntchito liwu lanu lamkati kuwafunsa upangiri wawo ndi chitsogozo.

Mayankho awo atha kukhala achangu, kapena atha kubwera pang'ono pang'ono, koma akuyenera kubwera tsiku limodzi kapena awiri motalikitsa.

Kodi wowongolera wanga akuyankhulana nane kudzera m'maloto anga?

Kwenikweni, iyi ndi njira yofala kwambiri kwa owongolera omwe amalumikizana nafe.

Tikamagona, egos athu amakhala ndi mwayi wopuma, zomwe zimaloleza zathu malingaliro osazindikira ndi / kapena 'apamwamba' kuti apite patsogolo.

Maloto omwe wowongolera akuyesera kuti afikire kwa inu atha kumverera zenizeni zenizeni kuposa maloto wamba.

Pafupifupi aliyense amalota zinthu zomwe zimaphatikizira zina m'moyo weniweni (moni kuwonetsa maliseche kusukulu kapena kuntchito…) komanso zithunzi ndi zomverera kuchokera kudziko lawo lomwe likudzuka.

Izi sizomwe maloto otsogolera mzimu alili konse .

Maloto owongolera mizimu nthawi zambiri amakhala opanda pake: malowa atha kukhala osasangalatsa komanso amtundu wa pastel, kapena owala, ndipo chokhacho chomwe chikuyembekezeka kukhala chitsogozo chanu.

Atha kukhala m'malo omwe mumawadziwa kapena osalowerera ndale, koma anthu okhawo omwe adzakhale inu, kapena wowongolera mmodzi kapena ambiri, kutengera zomwe malankhulidwewo akuyenera kukhala.

Komanso, mukadzuka ku malotowa, mudzakhala ndi chisangalalo chachikulu ndikukhala ndi moyo wabwino, ndipo pazifukwa zabwino!

Mwakhalapo pamaso pa munthu yemwe amakukondani mopanda malire ndipo ndikudzipereka pakukula kwanu kwauzimu. Kumva chisangalalo kumeneko kumakhalako kwakanthawi kochepa atadzuka.

Kodi ndingamvetse bwanji mayankho a atsogoleri anga?

Ngati chitsogozo chawo chidabwera kudzera m'maloto, zomwe zimaperekedwa zitha kukhala zowongoka, kapena zitha kutsimikizika kwathunthu.

Kupatula apo, kukhala ndi kholo lomwe mumawadziwa ndikuwadziwikitsa ndikukuwuzani kuti musiye kudya gilateni ndichomveka bwino komanso mwachidule, mosiyana ndi kukhala ndi magetsi angapo akuvina pazithunzi zooneka ngati nkhumba mlengalenga kuti muyesere kuzindikira.

Sungani zolemba zanu pafupi ndi bedi lako, ndipo ukadzuka kutulo, lembani zonse zomwe mungakumbukire.

Ngati uthengawo unali womveka bwino, mutha kukunkha zomwe mukufunikira kuchokera pazomwe zanenedwa. Ngati zinali zophiphiritsira kapena zofanizira, zingatenge kanthawi kuti mumvetsetse, koma osachepera mudzakhala ndi zolemba zomwe zalembedweratu kuti muzitchulidwenso.

Ngati mmalo mwa maloto, yankho labwera ngati kutsitsa, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zenizeni kwa munthuyo.

Chizindikiro kapena chithunzi chitha kutanthauza china chosiyana kwambiri ndi inu kuposa momwe chikanakhalira ndi ine, koma owongolera anu amamvetsetsa kulumikizana komwe muli nako ndi fanolo, ndipo akhoza kuligwiritsa ntchito mwanjira yopindulitsa kwa inu.

Kodi ndikudziwa bwanji kuti malangizo awa akundithandiza? (Kodi ndikudziwa bwanji kuti sizinthu zoyipa zomwe zikufuna kundisocheretsa kapena kuyambitsa mavuto?)

Makamaka, mutha kudziwa ndi upangiri womwe mumalandira kuchokera kwa iwo.

Mukudziwa momwe mungadziwire ngati wina akukunamizani kapena osakhala achinyengo kapena odabwitsa? Kuti china chake chimangomva 'kuchotsedwa'? Monga choncho.

Mukalandira upangiri kapena chidziwitso kuchokera kwa kalozera, dzifunseni ngati zikugwirizana nanu kapena ayi.

Kodi zimamveka ngati Chowonadi kwa inu?

Mukamvera malangizo awo m'mbuyomu, zinthu zakhala zikuyenda bwino?

Kodi zomwe akunena ndizomveka? (Kodi mungaperekenso upangiri womwewo kwa anthu omwe mumawakonda?)

Mudzadziwa kuti upangiri wawo ndi wabwino komanso wowona ngati mukumva kutetezedwa ndikufunda kwa iwo.

Kuphatikiza apo, ngati mwatsimikiza kuti ndi okhawo omwe amapangika mwamphamvu, zabwino zokha zomwe zili ndi chilolezo cholankhula nanu, ndiye mtundu womwe ungachite izi.

Izi zati, monga mtundu wina uliwonse waubwenzi, nthawi zina zimatenga kanthawi kuti mudziwe momwe ubale wanu uliri ndi kalozera wina, komanso mtundu wanji wa zomwe mukufuna kuti akhale nazo pamoyo wanu.

Kuwongolera kotsogola kwambiri (mitundu ya Guardian, angelo, ndi zina zambiri) ndiodekha modabwitsa, olera, komanso okoma mtima.

Ndiwo omwe angakupatseni malangizo ndi chilimbikitso chofatsa, koma sangakuuzeni zoyenera kuchita. Sadzakuletsani pansi, koma adzakuthandizani kuthana ndi zopunthwitsa zanu.

Ngati pali mzimu wotsika pang'ono womwe wakukokerani kwa inu, malingaliro anu omwe adzakuthandizani kuti mudziwe kuti kupezeka kwawo sikopindulitsa.

Muthanso kukhala womasuka ndi kupezeka kwawo, ngati wachibale wakutali yemwe simumamukonda chifukwa amatulutsa mphamvu zopanda mphamvu kapena amakupangitsani kumva kuti 'ugh' akakhala pafupi.

Angayesere kudzikuza ndi kunyoza anthu ena, kapena kukupatsani 'malangizo' pazomwe muyenera kapena musachite.

Nthawi zambiri, amachita izi chifukwa sanathe kuthana ndi mavuto awo pomwe anali amoyo, chifukwa chake akukhala mozungulira kudzera mwa iwe ndikuyesera kukupangitsa kuchita zinthu zomwe sangathe.

Ndikakumana ndi chinthu chotsika pang'ono / choipa, ndimachotsa bwanji?

Ndi chikondi.

Moona mtima, chikondi ndiye yankho, nthawi zonse.

Auzeni motsimikiza kuti akuyenera kuchoka, ndipo akumbutseni za kuwala komwe ali nako.

Ena atha kuyiwala kuti ndiopepuka mphamvu, ataphimbidwa popeza ali mu zowawa ndi mavuto omwe adanyamula nawo matupi awo akamwalira.

mukuganiza kuti zimapanga bwenzi labwino bwanji

Ganizirani za iwo ngati achinyamata okonda kuyenda, ngati mungathe. Amadzipangira okha, amatanganidwa kwambiri ndi matope awo, koma amakonda kukalipira anzawo ndikuwanyengerera kuposa kudzikonza okha.

Zowonadi, akupweteka mkati, ndipo yesetsani kudyetsa mphamvu zabwino za ena chifukwa ndizosavuta kuposa kukumana ndi zovuta zawo.

Kuti mubwereze kubwereza, mabungwewa sanachite kukuvulazani. Amakhala mizimu yomwe sinadutse pomwe amwalira, ndipo akuyesera kukhazikitsa kulumikizana ndi munthu yemwe amatha kuwamva / kuwawona chifukwa ali achisoni, osungulumwa, amantha, ndi zina zambiri.

Ngati mukuvutitsidwa ndi imodzi mwamtunduwu, yesetsani kuthana nawo momwe mungachitire ndi mwana wovuta. Molimba, koma mwachifundo.

Kuwafunsa kuti ayang'ane mkati ndikuwona kuwala komwe kumawakakamiza kuti asiye chidwi chawo ndi inu. Atha kukhala osagwirizana nawo poyamba, koma nthawi zambiri amatero pamapeto pake.

Mukawona kuwalako kukuwala, auzeni kuti agwiritse ntchito kuti apite mkuunikirako ndikulowanso ku Gwero la Gwero (kapena Mulungu, kapena Onse, kapena mulimonse momwe mungakhalire omasuka).

Ingonetsani momveka bwino kuti alibe chilolezo cholankhula nanu kapena kulumikizana nanu, ndikuwatumizira kuwalako, mwachikondi komanso mwachifundo.

Kodi ndi liti pamene ndiyenera kumvera malangizo / otsogolera anga kutengera zomwe akunena?

Izi zimadalira pa inu… koma pandekha, ndikalandira uthenga wofulumira kuchokera kwa omwe andipangira ndikuwuza kuti ndipewe vuto PANOPA chifukwa pali zoopsa mtsogolo, ndimvera izi nthawi yomweyo.

Pakhala nthawi zina pomwe ndasiya machenjezo awo ngati malingaliro anga opusa, amanjenje, ndipo zotsatira zake sizakhala zosangalatsa.

Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti owongolera amatulutsa Choonadi pazinthu zomwe mukudziwa kale, koma kusankha kunyalanyaza pazifukwa zina.

Monga ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu ndipo amakambirana zokwatirana, ndipo mukudziwa pansi pamtima kuti simukuwakonda ndipo simukufuna kukhalanso nawo, koma simukufuna kuwapweteka ndi kulekana.

Anthu ambiri amafinya malingaliro awa ndikuyesera kudzitsimikizira kuti akungoyamba kumene mapazi ozizira kapena kudzipereka phobia , m'malo momvera zidziwitso zawo ndikukhala m'choonadi chawo.

Maupangiri anu adzakulimbikitsani (modekha) kuti mukhale owona kwa inu nokha ndikubwerera munjira yomwe mukuyenera kutsatira, m'malo mongokokedwa kupita kumalo komwe simukufuna kupitako, kuti ena apindule nawo / kapena akufuna.

Wotsogolera wanga adandipatsa upangiri woyipa! Kodi nditani tsopano?

Choyambirira komanso chofunikira, khalani ndi nthawi yosanthula momwe zinthu ziliri, makamaka kuchokera pagawo lazomangika.

Izi zitha kukhala zovuta kuchita mukakhala ndi nkhawa kapena mantha, koma mukakhazikika, yesetsani kudzikhazikika ndikuwona bwino momwe zinthu ziliri.

Kodi malangizo omwe mudawatsata adayambitsa chibwenzi?

Dzifunseni nokha ngati mudali pachibwenzi ndi munthuyo chifukwa cholumikizana mozama, mozama, kapena chifukwa choti mumangokopeka nawo, kapena mukudziwa kuti atha kukuthandizani kukwaniritsa cholinga china.

momwe angagwirire mkazi wouma khosi

Kodi mwataya ntchito chifukwa chotsatira malangizo amene mwapatsidwa?

Chabwino, kodi ntchitoyi ikukukhudzani? Mukugwira ntchito yothandizira ena, kapena mumagwira bulu wanu pantchito yomwe pansi pake, mukudziwa kuti mumanyansidwa ndikukwiya, koma malipirowo anali odabwitsa ndipo mutu wake unali wotchuka?

Mukukumbukira pang'ono za momwe timayiwalira zinthu tikabadwira m'thupi latsopano? Chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu zomwe anthu amaiwala ndikuti tili ndi 'mapangano' auzimu omwe tidagwirizana tisanafike pano.

Tisanabadwe, tinavomera magawo ena, tinaganiza kuti tikufuna kukhala ndi moyo wotani m'moyo uno, kudziwa momwe tikufunira banja lathu kuti liziwoneka, komanso komwe tiyenera kukhala kuti tikwaniritse mawu onsewa.

Popeza ambiri a ife sitimakumbukira mwachidwi mapanganowa, titha kuchoka ndikudzipeza tili m'malo omwe sitimayenera kukumana nawo.

Izi zitha kubweretsa maubwenzi apamtima ndi iwo omwe amayenera kuti anali alendo osakhalitsa m'miyoyo yathu, pantchito zomwe sizimalimbikitsa miyoyo yathu (nthawi zambiri amatengedwa chifukwa amalipira bwino), ndi zina zambiri.

Izi zikachitika, anthu nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi malingaliro oti 'atsekeka'.

Amatha kukhala ndi nkhawa yayikulu, kukhumudwa *, ndi / kapena mavuto ena azaumoyo makamaka chifukwa chilichonse chazomwe akudziwa amadziwa kuti sayenera kukhala komwe ali, kuchita zomwe akuchita.

Nthawi zomwe mungakhale pachiwopsezo chovutitsa mgwirizano wanu wamoyo, owongolera anu amzimu atha kulowererapo ndikukulepheretsani zochitika. Nthawi zina ndi mphamvu, ngati pakufunika kutero.

Malangizo amenewo adakupatsani kuthetsa chibwenzi ndi munthu yemwe mumamuganiza kuti mumamukonda, koma pamapeto pake amakuchitirani nkhanza, kuzunza, kapena kukuwonongerani nthawi ina m'tsogolo.

Ntchito yomwe mwataya? Eya, nyumbayi itha kuyaka moto, kapena mwina mwavulala pantchito, kapena zinthu zina zilizonse zomwe zikanakupwetekani - mwina mwakuthupi kapena mwamaganizidwe - mukadakhala momwemo.

Ngakhale zitha kuwoneka zovuta, yesetsani kusakhazikika pazomwe mukuganiza kuti mukufuna, pamene mukudutsa moyo uno.

Zilakalaka zakanthawizi zitha kusokoneza cholinga chanu, ndipo zimakupangitsani kutsekeredwa m'malo omwe mukadapitako kalekale.

* (Mwachiwonekere, izi sizili choncho kwa iwo omwe ali ndi vuto la kusowa kwa mankhwala, PTSD ndi zina zotero. Sikuti onse omwe ali ndi nkhawa komanso kupsinjika mtima amatero chifukwa cha kufooka kwauzimu, ndipo si onse omwe ali ndi vuto lauzimu amakumana ndi izi. Izi ndi zizindikiro chabe zomwe mwina zimachitika chifukwa cha zochitika zina.)

Chifukwa chiyani wowongolera kwanga samandipatsa manambala a lottery opambana?

Mwina chifukwa simunapangidwe kuti mupambane lottery nthawi ino.

Ngati mukuvutika pachuma, yesani kufunsa omwe akukuthandizani kuti akupatseni upangiri wamomwe mungapezere ndalama zochulukirapo, kapena itanani oyitanira ku gulu lanu lothandizira zauzimu, kuwadziwitsa kuti muli pamalo ovuta, ndipo mungayamikire kwambiri Thandizeni.

Mutha kudabwa ndi zomwe zikuchitika, nthawi zambiri mwachangu kuposa momwe mumaganizira.

Kodi zitsogozo za mizimu zilidi zenizeni? Kapena kodi izi ndi zoyendetsa zatsopano za New Age?

Chikhalidwe chilichonse padziko lapansi, njira iliyonse yauzimu, chimalankhula za owongolera amzimu ndi anzeru omwe sianthu athupi.

Ma Vedas, mabuku achipembedzo achihindu omwe ali ndi zaka zopitilira 3,000, amatchulapo zitsogozo zamzimu.

Amatchulidwanso ku Kabbalah yachiyuda, ku Sufism, ku Tibetan Buddhism (monga Yidams), komanso m'mitundu yambiri yazikhalidwe padziko lonse lapansi.

Kwenikweni, zikhalidwe zambiri kupatula zikwama zazing'ono zakumadzulo, sizimangodziwa kukhalapo kwa maupangiri amzimu, komanso zimakhala ndi nkhani zabwino zonena za iwo omwe adatsata malangizowo.

Ndipazaka zana zapitazi kapena kupitilira apo, ndikupita patsogolo kwakasayansi, kuti uzimu wabwerera kumbuyo mokomera lingaliro logwirizana la azungu latsimikiza kukhala 'lenileni,' malinga ndi kuyesa kwaumboni kwasayansi.

Kuphatikiza apo, zipembedzo zina zakhala zikuganiza kuti chilichonse chosiyana ndi zomwe amaphunzitsa ndichabwino, choipa, komanso chowopsa.

Iwo, pamodzi ndi masukulu ena amalingaliro, angapangitse anthu kukhulupirira kuti munthu aliyense amene angalumikizane nawo ayenera kukhala ndi zolinga zoyipa m'malingaliro.

Dzifunseni nokha chifukwa chiyani mukuganiza kuti malingalirowa akwaniritsidwa, kenako pangani malingaliro anu pazomwe mumakhulupirira.

Pomaliza, kaya mungalumikizane ndi maupangiri azamizimu ndikulandila chitsogozo chomwe akupatseni ndichosankha chanu.

Ngati mungasankhe kulumikizana nawo, khalani omasuka kugawana zomwe mwakumana nazo munthawi yama ndemanga pansipa.

Madalitso kwa inu.

Ndiwe Moyo ukudutsa thupi lako, ukudutsa m'malingaliro ako, ukudutsa moyo wako. Mukazindikira izi, osati ndi malingaliro, osati ndi luntha, koma chifukwa mutha kumva kuti Moyo - mupeza kuti ndinu mphamvu yomwe imapangitsa maluwa kutseguka ndikutseka, zomwe zimapangitsa hummingbird kuuluka kuchokera ku maluwa kupita ku maluwa ena. Mumazindikira kuti muli mumitengo iliyonse, ndipo mumapezeka nyama, masamba, ndi miyala iliyonse. Ndinu mphamvu yomwe imayendetsa mphepo ndikupumira mthupi lanu. Chilengedwe chonse ndi cholengedwa chamoyo chomwe chimasunthidwa ndi mphamvuyo, ndipo ndizomwe muli. Ndinu Moyo.- Don Miguel Ruiz