Momwe Mungalimbane Ndi Kuopa Kwanu Kwa Imfa Ndipo Pangani Mtendere Ndi Kumwalira

Pali zonena pamzere kuti pali zinthu ziwiri zokha m'moyo zomwe ndizotsimikizika: imfa ndi misonkho.

Zachidziwikire, anthu ambiri amatha kuzemba izi, koma zoyambazo ndichinthu chomwe chamoyo chilichonse chimakumana nacho pamapeto pake.

Imfa ndi gawo losapeweka la moyo gawo lazunguliro la moyo lokha… ndipo ndi mutu womwe umawopsyeza gawo lalikulu la anthu.



Chikhalidwe chakumadzulo makamaka chimakana kufa, ndi chipembedzo chawo chaunyamata ndikuwoneka ngati amadana ndi chilichonse chakale kapena chodwala.

Izi ndizachisoni, chifukwa anthu omwe mwadzidzidzi akukumana ndi moyo watha nthawi zambiri amakhala amantha komanso mantha, popeza sanakhalepo ndi mwayi wofikirapo pamoyo wawo.



Chifukwa chake, munthu amapanga bwanji mtendere ndi chenicheni chaimfa, ndikuchotsa mantha omwe amakhala nawo?

7 Zifukwa Zazikulu

Caitlin Doughty, mortician komanso woyambitsa wa Dongosolo la Imfa Yabwino wasunga zifukwa 7 zomwe zimapangitsa anthu kuopa imfa:

  1. Kuopa kuti imfa idzadzetsa chisoni kwa okondedwa.
  2. Opani kuti zikhumbo zofunika ndi ntchito zitha.
  3. Kuopa kuti njira yakufa idzakhala yopweteka.
  4. Kuopa kuti sangathenso kukhala ndi zokumana nazo zilizonse.
  5. Kuopa kuti sangathenso kusamalira anthu omwe akuwadalira.
  6. Kuopa zomwe zidzachitike ngati pali moyo pambuyo paimfa.
  7. Kuopa zomwe zingachitike mthupi lawo akamwalira.

Ngati mungafotokozere zomwe zikuwopsyezani inu, mumatha kuthana ndi mantha ndikupeza yankho, sichoncho? Chifukwa chake, tilowe m'madzi ndikuwalankhula m'modzi m'modzi.



1. Kuopa Imfa Kupangitsa Chisoni Kwa Okondedwa Ako

Chisoni sichingapeweke, popeza takumana nazo zambiri pamoyo wathu wonse. Aliyense amene amve chikondi pomaliza adzamva chisoni, koma anthu ndiochulukirapo opirira kuposa momwe timakhalira kuwapatsa ulemu.

Inde, kutaya kwanu kumabweretsa zowawa, koma pamapeto pake anzanu ndi abale anu azitha kuyang'ana pazabwino zonse zomwe adakumana nanu, ndipo kukoma kumeneko kumachepetsa chisoni.

Ngati mukuda nkhawa ndi zinthu zomwe simunanene, kapena mukumva kuti mukufuna kuwatsimikizira za momwe amakondedwa, lembani makalata kuti amatha kutsegula mukangopita.

Nenani zonse zomwe mukufuna kunena, ndipo dziwani kuti mawu anu (makamaka olembedwa mdzanja lanu) adzasungidwa ndikuwerengedwa mobwerezabwereza kuti atonthoze.

2. Kuopa Ntchito Zofunikira Zosakwaniritsidwa

Poterepa, kukhala ndi dongosolo lokhazikika mwadzidzidzi ndikukonzekera zofunikira kungachepetse mantha anu.

Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwakhala mukulima munda wokongola wam'mudzi, onetsetsani kuti muli ndi mapulani omwe mukufuna kuti mupitilize.

Perekani malingalirowa kwa woyang'anira yemwe mukudziwa kuti mutha kumukhulupirira kuti zichitike, kuti mudziwe kuti zonse zidzakhala m'manja mukadzangopita.

Kodi mumayendetsa bungwe lopanda phindu? Perekani wina kuti apitirize ntchito yanu momwe mwasankhira.

Kodi mumapereka ku zachifundo zinazake? Onetsetsani kuti ndi m'modzi mwa omwe adzapindule ndi chifuniro chanu.

Pomaliza, zimatsikira ku bungwe, ndiye mukakhala ndi nthawi yopumula, khalani pansi ndikuyika mapulani okhazikika.

3. Kuopa Kuti Kuphedwa Kudzakhala Kopweteka

Mutu umodzi womwe umabwera mosakayikira mukamagwira ntchito ndi mantha aimfa ndi nkhawa kuti ipweteka.

Zikuwoneka kuti anthu ambiri sawopa imfa kwambiri kuposa momwe angafere .

Kwa anthu ambiri, zokumana nazo zomwe adakumana nazo ndi imfa pakadali pano zimakhudza abale awo omwe amwalira mchipatala, nthawi zambiri matenda monga khansa.

Nthawi zambiri samawona imfayo: yomwe ili m'manja mwa ogwira ntchito ku malo osamalira odwala ndi anamwino, motero njira yomalizira imaganiziridwa osati zowona, ndi mitundu yonse yazithunzi zoopsa kuchokera mufilimu ndi TV zomwe zimaponyedwa pamiyeso yokongoletsa malingaliro kuti azichita zambiri.

Ndi zofunikira kukhala ndi chifuniro chamoyo momwe mungakhazikitsire malangizo opita patsogolo ngati simukufuna kulowererapo kwachipatala kuti mupulumutse moyo wanu.

Anthu omwe alibe malamulowa m'malo mwake amakhala ndi ziganizo za 'kuwasunga amoyo mwa njira iliyonse yofunikira' muzipatala zambiri, chifukwa chake onetsetsani kuti mukulemba zomwe ndi zosavomerezeka kwa inu.

Pokhudzana ndi zowawa zomwe zingakhalepo, pali njira zabwino zothanirana ndi ululu zomwe zilipo, kuphatikizapo mwayi woti mukhale mu coma yovuta ngati ululuwo sungapirire.

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Osatsitsimutsa malamulo atha kukhazikitsidwa, ndipo m'malo omwe imfa imathandizidwa ndi njira ina, palinso kuthekera kothetsa moyo mwa inu nokha mukakonzeka kutero.

4. Kuopa Kusakhalanso Wokhoza Kukhala Ndi Zokumana Nazo

Zingamveke zophweka kunena, koma yankho la ichi ndikuti mukhale ndi zokumana nazo TSOPANO.

Kodi mudayamba mwawerengapo mindandanda isanu (kapena 10) pamwambapa yoyikidwa ndi anamwino a hospice, pazinthu zomwe anthu omwe ali pa kama yawo yakumwalira amadandaula kwambiri?

Chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe zimadandaula kwambiri ndikuti sanakhale moyo wowona: osakhala moyo womwe amafuna, kuchita zomwe amafuna kuchita.

Sanjani izo. Tsopano.

Mukudziwa mawu oti, 'tsiku lililonse uzikhala ngati kuti watha'? Ndiupangiri wabwino, chifukwa umatilimbikitsa kuti tisangalale ndi kukongola komwe tili nako PANOPA m'malo mochedwetsa chisangalalo mpaka tsiku lina lakutali lomwe timamva kuti tingathe kapena tiyenera kutero.

Ngati kuopa kusapeza china chake chofunikira kwa inu ndi chomwe chakhala chikukudetsani nkhawa, khalani ndi nthawi yolingalira zomwe mukumva kuti mukufunabe kukwaniritsa, komanso chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kutero.

Lembani mndandanda (lingaliro la 'mndandanda wazidebe' limamveka lokoma, koma mozama, lembani izi), ndipo pangani zotsatirazi:

  • Zinthu zomwe mukufunabe kukwaniritsa.
  • Zifukwa zomwe mukufuna kuchita zinthu izi.
  • Zitenga nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti muzichita.
  • Zida zofunikira kuti zitheke.

Vomerezani izi molingana ndi zofunika kwambiri pazosafunikira kwenikweni, ndipo chonde khalani owona mtima kwa inu eni.

Mukayang'ana omwe ali pamwamba pamndandanda - omwe mukufunadi kukumana nawo kapena kukwaniritsa - dzifunseni zomwe zikukulepheretsani kuchita zinthuzi.

Kuchokera pamenepo, mutha kudziwa momwe mungachitire kuti zikwaniritse. Izi zipita kutali kuti muchepetse (kapena ngakhale kuthetsa) chisoni, ndipo ndizofunikira kwambiri povomereza kuti moyo uno udzafika kumapeto.

Mwinanso mungakonde (nkhani ikupitirira pansipa):

5. Kuopa Kusakhalanso Wokhoza Kusamalira Omudalira

Ichi ndi chachikulu, ndipo ndizomveka kuti ndichifukwa chiyani anthu ali ndi nkhawa nazo, makamaka ngati ana ang'onoang'ono kapena makolo odwala atenga nawo mbali.

Ngati uku ndikumodzi mwamantha anu akulu, khalani pansi ndi loya kuti mukambirane zosankha zanu.

Mutha kusiyanitsa zochitika zowasamalira, ndalama zodalirika, ndi mitundu ingapo yama miniti kuti muwonetsetse kuti omwe mumawakonda adzakhala m'manja mwawo ngati sangapezeke ndi nthawi yanu.

6. Kuopa Moyo Pambuyo Pomwalira (Kapena Kusowa)

Pankhani ya mantha a moyo wam'mbuyo - kapena kusowa kwawo - zimafikira kwenikweni pazomwe mumakhulupirira zenizeni, mwauzimu.

Ngati izi zikuwopsyezani, yesetsani kutchula ndendende zomwe mukuwopa: kodi mumaopa mtundu wina wa 'helo' womwe ukuyembekezera, chifukwa mukuganiza kuti muyenera kulandira chilango chifukwa cha zolakwa?

Kapena mumawopa kuti pambuyo paimfa sipadzakhala chilichonse?

Ngati mukudandaula za moyo wam'mbuyo, funani mtsogoleri wauzimu wachipembedzo kapena filosofi yemwe amakukhudzani kwambiri, ndipo kambiranani nawo za mantha anu.

Kodi bts mtengo wake ndi uti

Zatsimikizika kuti chilichonse choyipa chomwe mungaganizire chikukuvutitsani kwambiri kuposa zomwe mungachite pambuyo pa moyo wachipembedzo.

Chikhalidwe chilichonse padziko lapansi chimakhala ndi lingaliro lamoyo wina pambuyo pake. Kwa ena, ndi malo okongola ngati Kumwamba kapena ku Summerlands, ndipo kwa ena, kuli thupi lakubadwanso kwatsopano: kuti tithawa matupi osakhalitsa ngati masuti azovala, ndipo mizimu imapitilizabe matupi atsopano, kapena kupita kumalo okwera, monga kubwereranso ndi Gwero la mphamvu zonse.

Ngakhale simukukhala auzimu makamaka, koma kutsatira ziphunzitso za agnostic kapena osakhulupirira Mulungu / asayansi, pali chitonthozo chomwe chingatengeredwe poti palibe chomwe chimathera. Simungathe kuwononga mphamvu: zimangosintha mawonekedwe.

Mphunzitsi wachibuda komanso wolemba Thich Nhat Hanh amagawana fanizo laimfa lofanana kwambiri ndi kayendedwe ka madzi achilengedwe:

Tangoganizirani mtambo wonyezimira kumwamba. Pambuyo pake, ikayamba kugwa, simukuwona mtambo womwewo. Palibe pamenepo. Koma chowonadi chenicheni ndikuti mtambowo uli mvula. Ndizosatheka kuti mtambo ufe. Amatha kukhala mvula, chipale chofewa, ayezi, kapena mitundu ingapo… koma mtambo sungakhale palibe . Simungalire ngati mutadziwa kuti poyang'ana kwambiri mvula mudzawonabe mtambowo.

- Kuchokera Palibe Imfa, Palibe Mantha: Nzeru Zolimbikitsa Zamoyo

Izi zikugwirizana kwathunthu ndi kufa kwa mawonekedwe athu apano: sitikutha, kungosinthira mkhalidwe watsopano. Madzi amatha kusintha m'njira zosiyanasiyana, koma sasiya Khalani.

7. Kuopa Zomwe Zimachitika Thupi Likamwalira

Ngati mwawonapo magawo ambiri a CSI komanso ma marathons owopsa amakanema, ndizotheka kuti mukudziwa zomwe zingachitike mthupi lanu mukamwalira. (Moni zombie apocalypse! Ndikungoseka. Ayi, zowonadi.)

Ngakhale kuti thupi lanu limangokhala galimoto kwakanthawi lomwe mumakwera, mumalumikizidwa nalo ndipo mwakhala mukuliyang'anira kwazaka zambiri, motero kuda nkhawa ndi kuwonongeka kwake kosapeweka kuli bwino.

Ndibwino kuti mupange kafukufuku wanu pazosankha zosiyanasiyana zomwe mungapeze kuti musankhe thupi lanu mukapanda kukhalamo. Kupanga nthawi yoti mukalankhule ndi wachipatala ndi lingaliro labwino, koma palinso mabuku ambiri oti mufufuze.

Kutentha maliro ndi kuikidwa m'manda ndizosankha zingapo - mutha kupukutiratu phulusa lanu kukhala daimondi yaying'ono kuti wokondedwa wanu avale, kapena thupi lanu litakwiriridwa litakulungidwa ndi kamtengo kamene kamafika pamtengo waukulu, wokongola, zotsalira zapadziko lapansi.

Yang'anani mmenemo, ndipo mutasankha njira yomwe ikukusangalatsani kwambiri, lembani kuti muwonetsetse kuti izi zichitika.

Chowonjezera: Chowonadi Chosatsimikizika

Chinthu chimodzi chomwe chimasokoneza anthu ambiri ndi lingaliro loti imfa imatha kuchitika nthawi iliyonse. Timakonda kuti zinthu zizikonzedwa, zodalirika: timakonda kunena zosadabwitsa, ndipo… mathero a moyo atha kukhala odabwitsa.

M'malo moyerekezera imfa ngati mphamvu yoopsa yomwe ikuyenda mozungulira, yokonzeka kugunda mphindi iliyonse, ndibwino kuiwona ngati mnzake wofatsa yemwe amatilimbikitsa kuti tisangalale ndi mphindi ino.

Pamapeto pake, izi ndi zonse zomwe tili nazo.

Ndi liti ndipo ngati mumadzimva kuti mukudandaula zakumapeto kwake, bweretsani chidwi chanu pakadali pano.

Modekha, osadzidzudzula wekha: ingotenga mpweya pang'ono ndikuganizira zomwe zikuchitika mphindi iyi.

Izi mpweya, ichi kugunda, ichi zotengeka.

Ndikudziwa kuti ndakhudzidwapo kangapo munkhani zomwe ndalemba pano, koma kukumbukira ndikukhalabe munthawi ino ndi imodzi mwanjira zabwino kwambiri zothanirana ndi nkhawa ndikufafaniza zomwe zingachitike, makamaka zikafika kuimfa.

Zimatithandizanso kuti tizisangalala ndikuthokoza zochitika zonse zomwe tili nazo, ndikupeza mtendere waukulu muulendo wodabwitsawu womwe timautcha moyo.