Momwe Mungalekere Kupsa Mtima: Magawo asanu ndi awiri kuchokera kuukali kuti amasulidwe

Magawo 7 Akusiya Mkwiyo:

  1. Ukali
  2. Kubwezera
  3. Kusunga chakukhosi
  4. Kusiya ntchito
  5. Zoona
  6. Kusintha
  7. Tulutsani

Funsani mlangizi kuti akuthandizeni kuthana ndi mkwiyo wanu. Ingodinani apa kuti mupeze imodzi tsopano.

Mkwiyo ndi ndalama zamasiku athu ano. Intaneti ndi malonda ake osangalatsa omwe amalumikizidwa bwino amakhala ndi mwayi wogwiritsa ntchito 'nkhani' kuti zitsimikizire kuvomerezeka kwa akulu akulu omwe akuchita maphwando pasukulu yapadziko lonse lapansi 'atsogoleri' abodza atengedwa kukhala olamulira kumbuyo kwa magulu a anthu okwiya kwambiri pa… china? Palibe? M'nthawi yofuula poyamba, musaganize konse, ndizovuta kunena.

Mkwiyo umagulitsa, ukali umasokonekera, ndipo chakhala chida m'manja mwa ambiri kuti mantha ndi mantha nthawi zonse amakhala kuti azitipatsa moni m'mawa uliwonse, mosasamala kanthu za nyengo, mosasamala kanthu komwe tili ndi dzuwa, komanso osasamala za zovuta zomwe zimachitika ife.





Zosefera zovulaza ndi ukali kutsika kuchokera kuzikulu mpaka zazing'ono: tikamachita mkwiyo osati chikondi, moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku umadzala ndi luluzi. Mwina timatengera ena kukhumudwitsidwa kwathu chifukwa cholephera kuthawa mkwiyo, kapena timati 'ayi' mwachangu komanso pafupipafupi kuzolumikizana zazing'ono kuposa kale. Timawona kuti chifundo chathu chikutha ndipo thanzi lathu la m'maganizo, thupi, ndi uzimu limachepa.

momwe mungasunthire osatseka

Makina a Chikhalidwe Chaukali atipera kukhala zida zopangira ngati titalola.



Sititero.

Chifukwa nthawi zambiri mkwiyo ndi bodza. Sitimakwiyira ena, timadzipsa tokha. Ulendo wochokera kuukali mpaka kumasulidwa umadutsa magawo asanu ndi awiri ma Rs omwe atha kutenga nthawi kuti agwirepo - ena atha kuyenda panjira.

1. Ukali

Chifunga chofiira mwadzidzidzi muubongo chimalimbikitsa kwambiri. Zimatipangitsa kumva kuti kugawanika phiri ndi manja athu ndizotheka osati zotheka, koma ndi ufulu wathu, ndipo pali malingaliro ochepa omwe amakhala osokoneza bongo kuposa kumverera koyenera . Tiyenera kuyang'aniridwa, koma wina amatinyalanyaza? Ukali. Wina amatikhumudwitsa pomwe zonse zomwe timafuna ndimtendere wopitilira tsiku lathu? Ukali.



Ngakhale kukwiya kuli koyenera (monga chifukwa cha kupanda chilungamo kwenikweni kosawerengeka komwe kukuvutitsa dziko lapansi), ndizowopsa kwambiri kuloledwa kukhalabe. Iyenera kumasulidwa kuti ipatse njira zothandiza, zopindulitsa.

2. Kubwezera

Mkwiyo ukangoyamba kumene, mtima wofuna kubwezera umakhala wamphamvu kwambiri. Timamva kuti talakwiridwa ndipo tikufuna kulanga wochimwayo. Chilango chimakhala chakuthupi (ndewu), cham'mtima (chipongwe), chogwirika (choletsa katundu kapena ntchito), kapena zamaganizidwe (zonsezi pamwambapa). Njira yolondola siyofunikira pakatentha kwakanthawi monga momwe ife chitani, 'timayimilira' chifukwa - momwe ife tikukhudzidwira - kulakwitsa komwe tazindikira kuti kunali kotsutsana ndi zonse zomwe tili ndikukhala okondedwa.

Izi, zachidziwikire, zimabweretsa mkwiyo.

3. Kusunga chakukhosi

Chilango sichikwanira chifukwa chaukali. Kudulidwa komwe kumazama kwambiri ngati DNA kumafuna kudzilungamitsa kwa 'Ungayese bwanji kundipangitsa kukhala chonchi!'

Mnzako akapereka chinsinsi cholonjezedwa, mkwiyo umachotsa malingaliro oti ungagwirizane nawo zomwe zidapangitsa kuti munthu afooke potsegulira zomwe zanenedwa poyamba. Kusunga chidani ndikuti 'Ndimadana nanu!' kukakamizidwa kwa wokondedwa. Ndi mankhwala a nyamayi nthawi iliyonse akayang'ana pagalasi, ndikuimba mlandu pamapazi olakwira popanda kufunika kulikonse kudziwonetsera wekha .

Koma mkwiyo umapsa pokhapokha ngati nthawi zonse munthu amapsa mtima. Pakapita kanthawi, wina amawona kuti kukwiyira wina chifukwa chazovuta ndizothandiza kwambiri kuposa kuwunika momwe zinthu zidakhalira poyamba.

kuchuluka kwa mr chirombo kuli bwanji

Zomwe zimatipangitsa kusiya ntchito.

Mwinanso mungakonde (nkhani ikupitirira pansipa):

4. Kusiya ntchito

Zinachitika. Mwina zidakhala mwadala. Zitha kukhala kuti sizinali mwadala. Zitha kukhala zowonetsa zovuta zakuya. Zitha kukhala zadongosolo. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, kodi kupsa mtima kuli ndi phindu lililonse, kapena kodi kuli ngati poizoni wa mwambi ngati munthu akumwa poizoni akuyembekeza kuti wina wamwalira?

Kusiya ntchito ndi momwe zisankho zimayambira. Mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo zitha kutisowetsa mtendere pano, koma kusiya ntchito kumatibweza m'mbuyo mokwanira kuti tiwone malo omwe atizungulira, osati masomphenya okhawo omwe anali nawo kale. Nkhalango zoyambitsa ndi zotsatira. Nyanja za cholinga. Misewu yayikulu ndi mayendedwe odzaza ndi malingaliro.

Kusiya ntchito akufunsa kuti: 'Kodi muchita chiyani?' Ambiri aife sitikufuna kuledzera. Mkwiyo ungatithamangitse, koma timazindikira msanga kuti umatero potenga mphamvu kuchokera kuzinthu zina zofunika, machitidwe monga chifundo, kulingalira, kudziwonetsera, kuwona mtima, ngakhale nkhokwe zathu kukhululuka , chotero timadzipatsa chilolezo cha (1) kuphunzira kuchokera ku zomwe takumana nazo, (2) kusintha mikhalidwe yathu kuti tipewe kuchitika mobwerezabwereza momwe tingathere, ndi (3) kukula. Ngati mkwiyo ubzala mbewu yamtundu uliwonse, iyenera kukhala yomwe imalola kukula kwaumwini komanso chikhalidwe, apo ayi imangokhala chizolowezi chomazolowera.

5. Zoona

Apa ndipomwe timazindikira kuti mwina sizinali zovuta kwenikweni. Kapenanso kuti zinthu zikadatha kusamalidwa bwino konseko. Kapenanso kuti mkwiyo wathu unali wabodza kwathunthu. Zifukwa zimalowa mkati. Tidakalipira mwana wathu osati chifukwa cholephera mayeso ena, koma chifukwa tsiku logwira ntchito linali lofunika kwambiri (chitsanzo cha kusamuka ). Tidachirikiza malingaliro andale odana nawo chifukwa kudziimba mlandu ndikowalemetsa m'mawa uliwonse. Tidafuna kukalipira wina chifukwa sitimamva chilichonse kulamulira chilichonse, ngakhale zinthu zomwe timadziwa sizolondola koma zimachitika nthawi zonse. Timamva kukhala tokha, osowa chochita… m'miyoyo yathu yachikondi, mabanja, ntchito, madera, ntchito, maulendo amkati ...

Ndipo zimapweteka. Izi zimandipweteka kwambiri.

Koma titha kusiya kuwawa.

6. Kusintha

Mkwiyo nthawi zambiri umakhala chiwonetsero cha kusakhutira. Timathetsa izi potengera mantra kuti Chilichonse zosintha, ndikuti tiyeneranso kudzisintha tokha - lingaliro lomasula chifukwa limatimasula ku chipinda chokhazikika cha zolakwa ndipo limalola, ngati tili ndi mwayi wokwanira, chisomo chowonanso dziko lapansi, koma opanda fyuluta ya red haze.

7. Kumasulidwa

Kuponya mwala komaliza m'madzi mutadumpha padziwe kumakhala kosangalatsa nthawi zonse, koma kodi tikudziwadi chifukwa chake? Kubwerera kutuluka, mwina? Mkwiyo uli monga choncho: umatiponyera chamutu pamwamba pa nkhani, munthu, kapena chochitika, ndikutiwona tikuphulika, kuphulika, kupumira - koma ndi ife omwe, pamapeto pake, tiyenera kuloleza chisangalalo ndi chisomo chokhala gawo lina Kuyenda, kukhala othandizira kusintha m'malo mochita zovulaza.

momwe mungadziwire kuti mtsikana ali mwa inu

Kudzipereka kumasula ndi mpweya womasula motsutsana ndi njira zopanda chidziwitso zomwe timapumira nazo poyankha dziko lapansi. Sikuti ndikulandila, chifukwa pali zinthu padziko lapansi zomwe zimafunikira mkwiyo wathu ngati mafuta oti tizichotse m'malo mongovomereza ngati zomwe zikuchitika.

Komabe, ngati sitimasula mkwiyo wa adrenaline, timayamba kuganiza kuti tikufunikira mkwiyo kuti tisinthe ndipo sitikufuna kuti mkwiyo upite, koma kupsa mtima kwakanthawi kumabweretsa masomphenya owopsa. Kuyankha mwachidwi kumatha kukhala kolimbikitsa kwambiri, koma, pamapeto pake, kuyenera kutonthozedwa ndikuti dziko lino liyenera kugawidwa pakati pathu tonse.

Aliyense atha kukwiya - ndizosavuta, koma kukwiyira munthu woyenera komanso mulingo woyenera komanso nthawi yoyenera komanso cholinga choyenera, komanso m'njira yoyenera - zomwe sizili m'manja mwa aliyense ndipo sizophweka. - Aristotle

Simukudziwa chochita ndi mkwiyo womwe mukumva? Mukufuna kuti musiyiretu zina zabwino? Lankhulani ndi mlangizi lero yemwe angakuthandizeni kuchita izi. Dinani apa kuti mulumikizane ndi imodzi.