Kodi Zimatenga Nthawi Yaitali Bwanji Kuti Muyambe Kukondana?

Mwina ndinu munthu amene amagwa mutu m'masabata ochepa, kapena mwina ndinu owotcha pang'onopang'ono.

Koma zimatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji kwenikweni kukondana?

Aliyense amawoneka kuti akukondana, kapena osachepera ganizani ali, pamitengo yosiyana komanso mwamphamvu zosiyanasiyana.





Msinkhu wanu, mbiri yaubwenzi wanu, mtundu wa umunthu wanu, ndi luntha lanu lakumvetsetsa zitha kutenga gawo pakatenga nthawi kuti muyambe kukondana, komanso zinthu zina zochepa…

Nkhaniyi ifotokoza izi mwatsatanetsatane.



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Msinkhu wathu angathe zimakhudza momwe timakhalira ndi zibwenzi zathu mwachangu.

Izi ndichifukwa cha zinthu zingapo, kuphatikiza kuwopsa kwa ziwopsezo zomwe zimayamba pambuyo pake m'moyo, komanso chidziwitso.

Mwachitsanzo, achikulire achichepere kapena achinyamata amatha kumverera ngati amakondana mwachangu kwambiri.



Izi ndichifukwa choti malingaliro nthawi zambiri amakhala achilendo ndipo amatha kukhala ochulukirapo mpaka kukula kwambiri.

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Achichepere sanakhalepo ndi vuto lofananira ndi kusweka kwa maubwenzi monganso momwe mkazi wazaka zapakati amathetsa banja.

Izi zimathandiza kwambiri kufulumira komwe achinyamata amakondana, chifukwa samazindikira zowawa kapena zoopsa zomwe zingachitike.

Omwe ali okalamba atha kukhala atakumana ndi mavuto angapo, mwina atha kusudzulana, kapena amangodziwa zoopsa zomwe zimadza ndi maubale.

Mwakutero, amakhala osamala kwambiri pankhani ya chikondi.

Mpaka pamlingo, amatha kudziletsa kuti asamve mopitilira muyeso, kutanthauza kuti amayamba kukondana pang'onopang'ono. Amachedwetsa ntchitoyi chifukwa cha mantha kapena ngati njira yodzitetezera.

Mbiri Yanu Yapaubwenzi Ndi Chiyani?

Izi zimayendera limodzi ndi zaka, zachidziwikire, kuti omwe ali ndi mbiri yayitali yocheza atha kukhala osadandaula pang'ono podziponyera m'mabwenzi atsopano.

Ngati tapwetekedwa m'mbuyomu, mwachilengedwe timangodzitchinjiriza pang'ono ndikuyesa kuchititsa zinthu mosasunthika.

Anthu omwe akupanga ubale wawo woyamba nthawi zambiri amakondana mwachangu - makamaka ngati onse awiri ndi oyamba kumene.

Zomverera zomwe zimabwera zimamverera kwambiri kuposa momwe zimakhalira ndi anthu omwe ali kale pachibwenzi chachikulu.

Omwe timakhala nawo ocheperako, timayanjana nawo mwachangu, ndikuzama kuti cholumikizira choyambirira chimakhala.

Anthu omwe anali ndi zibwenzi zosakhulupirika atha kuwatenga nthawi yayitali kuti ayambirenso kukondana ndi anzawo amtsogolo, ngakhale malingaliro awo atakhala enieni.

Izi zimafunikira kuti tidziteteze ku zowawa zomwe tili nazo ndi gawo limodzi lamachitidwe, ndipo mwanjira zina, gawo lina lakusintha.

Timaphunzira kudzitchinjiriza kuzinthu zomwe timaganiza kuti zingatipweteke mwakuthupi kapena m'maganizo, zomwe zimakhala zomveka bwino.

Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti aliyense ndi wosiyana, ndikuti ubale uliwonse ndi wosiyana, nawonso.

Iwo omwe akhala osakhulupirika atha kuziona kuti akuvutika kuti akhale otseguka komanso achikondi, ngakhale atafuna kukhala otani.

Kuopa kukhumudwitsanso wina kapena kukhala nawo mkati mwawo kuti aberere wina yemwe amamusamala kumatha kufooketsa pankhani yamaubwenzi atsopano.

Kubera ndizowopsa, makamaka kwa onse omwe ali pachibwenzi - the malingaliro osakhulupirika ndipo manyazi atha kukhala owopsa kwa anthu onsewa, ndipo amakonda kupitilizabe ubale wamtsogolo wa anthu onsewa.

Koma sikuti nthawi zonse zimakhala zosavuta kunena kuti kusweka mtima kumabweretsa chenjezo.

Ena a ife, tikakhumudwitsidwa ndi kutha kwa banja, timakhumba kukondana komanso kukondana, pafupifupi mpaka momwe timakondana mwachangu kwambiri chifukwa timafuna kwambiri.

Izi ndizomveka, koma ndikofunikira kuti muzidzindikira nokha ndikuwonetsetsa kuti malingaliro anu ndi enieni musanalowerere muubwenzi watsopano.

Onetsetsani kuti mukufunadi kukhala ndi ichi munthu osati chilungamo zilizonse munthu amene angathe kudzaza mphaso!

Ena adasilidwa ndi zopweteketsa mtima kotero kuti ali ngati mantha kwambiri kukhumudwitsa alonda awo, kudalira wina, ndikukondanso .

Izi ndizomveka, koma yesetsani kuti musadzitseke kuti musamve kutengeka kwenikweni chifukwa mukuopa kuti zingakupwetekeni.

Kumbukirani kuti mudakwanitsa kupweteketsa mtima komaliza ndikuti mudzakwanitsa kupyola kwina - izi zikachitika.

Munthu amene mukuwopa kuti adzilole kuti mumukonde atha kukhala kuti ndi ameneyo, chifukwa chake palibe chifukwa chodandaula!

Anthu omwe asweka mitima ya ena atha kukhala ozengereza kudziponyera mu ubale wina ndipo atha kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti 'L'.

Ngati mukudziwa kuti mwatero adathetsa chibwenzi ndikusiya wina ali ndi mtima wosweka, mutha kukhala ndi mantha pang'ono kuchita zomwezo.

Mutha kukhala kuti mumakondana kwambiri ndi okondedwa anu nthawi ina, ndipo zimakuopetsani kuti simumvanso choncho.

Mutha kukhala ndi nkhawa kuti ngati mungakondane ndi mnzanu watsopano, pali chiopsezo choti mutero kugwa kunja za chikondi nawo , nawonso, ndi kuwasiya akuvulala ndi osweka mtima.

wokwatiwa koma amakhala ndi malingaliro kwa mkazi wina

Izi nthawi zonse zimakhala zoopsa, zachidziwikire, muyenera kungoganiza ngati mukuwona kuti ndikofunikira.

Makhalidwe Anu Ndi Maganizo Anu Ndi Chiyani?

Tonse ndife anthu osiyana kotheratu, zomwe zimapangitsa kukhala kosatheka kuyika nthawi yeniyeni pamakhalidwe aliwonse, makamaka omwe amakhudza kukhudzika ngati kukondana.

Ena a ife ndife osasamala malinga ndi umunthu - timakonda 'kuwupereka' zikafika pakuyenda popanda mapulani (matikiti oyendetsa ndege amtundu umodzi, aliyense?) Ndipo titha kukhala 'osochera' m'moyo wathu wonse.

Izi nthawi zambiri zimatipangitsa kudziponya tokha mu ubale watsopano ndikukondana mwachangu kwambiri.

Omwe ali ndi umunthu wosungika kwambiri, ndizomveka… amasungidwa pankhani zakumverera kotere.

Anthu omwe adaleredwa mwachinyengo (mwachitsanzo, kusudzulana kapena kupezerera anzawo) amakonda kukondana mwachangu kwambiri.

Titha kumva kuti tanyalanyazidwa pang'ono zomwe zingatipangitse kufunafuna chikondi ndi zabwino zake zonse - tikufuna kulumikizana kumeneko Kulakalaka kukondana ndipo chikondi .

Izi nthawi zambiri zimachitika chifukwa chakumverera ngati kuti tidaphonya zinthu izi pomwe tidakula.

Zitha kutanthauza kuti malingaliro athu a 'chikondi' atha kusokonekera pang'ono pamene tikufunafuna kulumikizanako kulikonse komwe kungapezeke.

Ichi ndichinthu choyenera kukumbukira kuti tisasokoneze machitidwe ndi malingaliro ena kwa anthu omwe sangakwaniritse zosowa zathu momwe timafunira kapena momwe amafunira.

Potengera malingaliro, malingaliro athu onse pamoyo mwachidziwikire adzakhudza mbali iliyonse ya moyo - kuphatikiza chikondi.

Monga momwe mungaganizire, iwo omwe ali ndi nkhawa mitundu atenga nthawi kuti ayambe kukondana, kapena osachepera kuzindikira kuti agwa mchikondi (popeza izi zitha kukhala zinthu ziwiri zosiyana kwambiri!)

Iwo omwe amakhala ndi nkhawa kapena kuchita mantha ndi zinthu zambiri amatha kupeza maubwenzi ovuta.

Chizolowezi chawo ndichakuti ganizani mozama zinthu ndikudandaula za zotsatira za machitidwe awo - ndipo, ngati zochita zawo zikukhudza munthu wina yemwe amamusamala, nkhawazo zimatha kukulirakulira.

Nthawi zambiri chikondi chimakhazikika pakukhulupirirana ( mu ubale wabwino , osachepera!) chomwe ndichinthu chomwe omwe ali ndi malingaliro odzaza ndi nkhawa atha kulimbana nacho.

Zotsatira zake, 'ovuta' pakati pathu nthawi zambiri amatenga nthawi yayitali kuti agwe mchikondi, koma, tikatero, timakhala olimba - ngati kuli koyenera kulingalira mopitirira muyeso, kuyenera kukhala kwapadera kwambiri, pambuyo pake.

Kumbali inayi, iwo omwe ali ndi malingaliro abwino, otakasuka amatha kukondana mwachangu kwambiri.

Izi ndichifukwa choti nthawi zambiri amapangidwa (kapena adadzikonzekeretsa pamlingo winawake) kuti awone zabwino pazonse.

Oganiza bwino amakonda kukondana mwachangu. Amakhala ndi chiyembekezo ndipo chiyembekezo chawo kuti zinthu ziyenda bwino 'zimawalola' kuti amve momwe akumvera ndikukhulupirira kuti zachitika.

Chosangalatsa ndichakuti, anthu otuluka amatha kupita mbali iliyonse - anthu ena achidaliro amakhala omasuka kudziponyera maubale atsopano kotero kuti amadzimva okha zinthu ndikukondana mwachangu.

Mitundu ina yamakhalidwe olimba amagwiritsidwa ntchito podzidalira komanso kukhala osangalala ndi kampani yawo, chitsimikizo, ndi kudzikonda kotero kuti samalakalaka chikondi monga momwe anthu ena amachitira.

Mwakutero, nthawi zambiri amatengera njira ya 'kutenga kapena kusiya' pamaubwenzi ndi chikondi. Ndi ndimitunduyi momwe zinthu zina, monga zaka komanso mbiri ya ubale zimapangitsa kusiyana.

Mwinanso mungakonde (nkhani ikupitirira pansipa):

Kodi Nzeru Zanu Zotani?

Anthu ena amalumikizana kwambiri ndi momwe akumvera komanso za anthu ena. Izi ndiye pachimake pazomwe nzeru zamaganizidwe (EQ) zimatanthauza.

Zimatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti muyambe kukondana zimatengera zomwe EQ yanu ili.

Omwe ali ndi EQ yapamwamba amatha kupanga zibwenzi ndi wina mwachangu kuposa iwo omwe ali ndi EQ yotsika.

Ndizomveka kuti, mulingo wapamwamba kwambiri wamaganizidwe am'maganizo umapangitsa kuti malingaliro achikondi akule mwachangu kwambiri.

Chofunikanso ndichakuti munthu amazindikira msanga bwanji kuti ali mchikondi. Ndipo luntha lamaganizidwe limathandizanso apa.

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Anthu omwe ali ndi EQ yotsika nthawi zambiri samamvetsetsa bwino za chikondi kapena kungowanyalanyaza kwakanthawi.

Chifukwa chake pomwe angathe kwenikweni khalani mchikondi, mwina sangadziwe kuti ali.

Angasangalale kwambiri kucheza ndi wokondedwa wawo ndipo atha kukhala ndi chiyembekezo cha momwe chibwenzicho chikuyendera, koma mwina sangadzimvere kutali okonzeka kulengeza za chikondi chawo … Chifukwa satsimikiza kuti chomwe akumva ndi chikondi.

Kumbali ina, wina yemwe ali ndi EQ yapamwamba amathanso kusokoneza malingaliro awo ndikukhulupirira kuti ali mchikondi, pomwe onse akumva kuti ndi olimba lingaliro la kuphatikana kapena ngakhale chilakolako .

Mwanjira ina, kukhala ndi nzeru zapamwamba sizitanthauza kuzindikira mwachangu zomwe chikondi chili komanso chomwe chikondi sichili.

Kodi Ndinu Mwamuna Kapena Mkazi?

Jenda amatenga gawo lalikulu pachilichonse chomwe timachita, motero sizosadabwitsa kuti zimakhudza momwe timakondera mwachangu komanso kulimba kwa malingaliro athu.

Anthu ena amakhulupirira kuti amuna amakondana mwachangu, ngakhale sizomwe zimawonetsedwa m'mabuku ndi ma romcom!

Timakonda kuwona akazi akukondana mwachangu kwambiri ndipo amuna akuyesetsa kufotokoza momwe akumvera - taganizani za makanema onse aku Hollywood onena za akazi omwe amakondana ndi anzawo amuna zaka zambiri mwamunayo asanazindikire kuti akukondana ndi mkaziyo, nawonso!

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Omwe amaganiza kuti amuna amakondana amatchula mitundu yamamuna mwachangu - makamaka, samangoganizira mopitirira muyeso…

… Ndipo akazi ali.

Amayi amakonda kupsinjika kapena kuda nkhawa kwambiri, amaganizira za zotulukapo ndi mawotchi odziwika ndi kutchuka ndi zina zotero.

Amayi ambiri amadzipeza okha-wachiwiri ndi wachitatu-akuganiza zochita ndi malingaliro awo - izi zikutanthauza kuti safuna kuvomereza okha, ndi anzawo, kuti ali mchikondi.

Amuna ambiri amakonda kumangopita nawo ndikuganiza kuti zinthu ziyenda bwino!

Zimakhala zovuta nthawi zonse kudziwa momwe jenda yathu imakhudzira zomwe timachita ndi momwe timamvera, chifukwa chake zimakhala zovuta pankhani yachikondi.

Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, pali mitundu yambiri ya umunthu ndi zazing'ono zomwe zimakhudza momwe ife tilili.

Si amuna kapena akazi onse omwe ali ofanana, chotero sitingayembekezere zokumana nazo zawo zachikondi kuti zigwirizane ndi mtundu wabwino waudongo.

Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti zinthu zonse zomwe zatchulidwa m'nkhaniyi zimagwirira ntchito limodzi - jenda yathu imakhudza umunthu wathu, zomwe zimatha kusintha zizolowezi zathu tikakhala pachibwenzi ...

Kodi Ubale Wanu Wapita Motani?

Ndi kangati pomwe mumawona mnzanu atha kukhudzanso momwe mumakondera mwachangu.

Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi winawake ndipo mumawawona pafupipafupi, zimatha kuyenda chilichonse!

Anthu ena apeza zinthu zochulukira zomwe amakonda za munthu amene ali naye pachibwenzi nthawi ikamapita, zomwe zimakupangitsani kugwa mwachangu komanso mwamphamvu.

Mwanjira imeneyi, kuwona munthu amene muli naye pachibwenzi masiku ambiri kungatanthauze kuti mumakondana msanga.

Anthu ena, komabe, atha kuwona kuti kuwona wina kwambiri kungamulepheretse!

Zomverera zitha kukhalapobe, koma 'ubale' (kuwona zambiri za wina ndi mnzake osamverera ngati uli ndi ufulu) ungapangitse anthu ena ndikufuna kuti ndichepetse ndipo amadziletsa okha ndikudziletsa momwe akumvera.

Pankhaniyi, kuyamba kukondana kumatenga nthawi yayitali.

Zachidziwikire, pali anthu omwe amakhala nthawi yayitali limodzi ngati abwenzi omwe amakula ndikumverera kwakanthawi.

Izi sizitanthauza kuti malingaliro sakhala okhwima akawonekera, inde.

Zomangira zina zimayamba ngatiubwenzi, ndipo zimatha kukhala nthawi yayitali. Anthu awiri atha kukondana wina ndi mnzake mu njira yodziwika bwino kwambiri , komabe pakhoza kukhala ubale wambiri pamenepo.

Anzanu awiri amatha kusamalirana kwambiri, ndipo amawathandiza kwambiri ndikuwateteza potengera chibwenzi cha anthu ena.

Nsanje ndikumverera kwachilengedwe pakati pa abwenzi, ngakhale atakhala kuti sanakondane.

Nthawi zina nsanje iyi imatha kubweretsa nthawi 'pano kapena ayi' pomwe mwazindikira mwadzidzidzi kuti simukufuna kuti mnzanu azikhala ndi munthu yemwe ali pachibwenzi naye ndipo mukufuna kuti akhale nanu.

Zimakhala zovuta kudziwa pomwe anzanu omwe amathera limodzi agwa mchikondi. Kwa ena, ndikuwotcha pang'ono, kwachikondi komwe kumawonekera kwathunthu pakachitika kanthu kena kathupi (kupsompsonana, mwachitsanzo) komwe kumasintha ubale kuchokera kuubwenzi kupita kwa omwe angakhale okondedwa.

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Pamapeto pake pamakhala malingaliro akuti chikondi chitha kuchitika nthawi yomweyo mukawona munthu winawake.

Tsopano, sitingathe kupimitsa izi - palibe sayansi iliyonse yomwe tingathe kutembenukira apa ndipo, monga momwe mungaganizire pofika pano, 'chikondi' chitha kukhala chovuta kwambiri kufotokoza!

Timakhulupiriradi momwe timamvera poyamba, kaya ndi zachikondi, zakuthupi, kapena zauzimu.

Kwa ena, pali kulumikizana kwakuya komwe kumapitilira zenizeni - timakhala ndi chidziwitso cha deja-vu ndi anthu ena ndipo nthawi yomweyo timakhala pafupi nawo.

Kwa ambiri, izi zimalumikizidwa ndi thupi lakubadwanso kwatsopano (lingaliro loti mlendo uyu ndi wina yemwe amudziwa kale) kapena atha kukhala pamlingo wofanana-wauzimu.

Chofunikira kukumbukira apa ndikuti 'chikondi' ndi chosiyana ndi aliyense, ndipo zokumana nazo za aliyense zidzakhala zosiyana.

Anthu ena amati 'amadziwa' nthawi yomweyo akakumana ndi 'ameneyo,' ndipo ndife ndani kuti tizinene ngati akulondola kapena ayi ?!

Kumbukirani: Chikondi Ndicho Chomwe Mukusowa

Chifukwa chake, monga tidakhazikitsa, ndizovuta kwambiri kudziwa momwe zimakhalira nthawi yayitali kuti mugwere mchikondi.

Chikondi ndi chovuta chokha paokha, motero ndizovuta kwambiri kulingalira zinthu zonse zomwe zimachita nawo mbali.

Nkhani yayikulu yoti tichotse apa ndikuti timamva momwe timamvera, pomwe timamva.

Sitingathe kufulumira kuti tikhale ndi malingaliro ena ndipo sipangakhale kukakamizidwa kuti tinene mawu a 'L', ngakhale mukumva bwanji ngati 'mukuyenera' kunena!

Malingaliro athu amatha kupyola nthawi yayitali tisanakumane nazo, chifukwa chake timangofunika kudzipirira tokha.

Tiyeneranso kuphunzira kudalira chibadwa chathu chamatumbo zikafika pankhani zamtima.

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Sitikunena kuti thawani kachiwiri mukakhala ndi kukayikira kwakung'ono pazinthu zina, koma tsatirani malingaliro anu - ngati china chake chikumverera kuti 'sichichitika,' nthawi zonse chimakhala.

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