Momwe Mungadzikondere Nokha: Chinsinsi Chokha Cha Kusintha Kwa Zisokonezo Mukudzikonda

Kukhala wokongola kumatanthauza kukhala wekha.
Simuyenera kuvomerezedwa ndi ena.
Muyenera kuvomereza nokha.- Thich Nhat Hanh

Mawu omwe ali pamwambapa angawoneke ngati lingaliro losavuta, koma ndi ozama muchowonadi chake, ndipo ndi chovuta kutsatira. Ndi, komabe, imodzi mwazinthu zofunikira kuti mudzikonda nokha.

Mwinamwake mukuvutika ndi kudzikonda nokha pakalipano, koma m'nkhaniyi, muphunzira njira yolimbikitsira kumverera kovuta kumeneku. Tsatirani njira imodzi iyi ndipo mudzawona kusiyana kwenikweni ndi momwe mumadzichitira nokha.



Ndiloleni ndifotokoze…

Tsiku lililonse, timadzazidwa ndi mauthenga ochokera mbali zonse omwe amayesa kutinyengerera kuti tizidana ndi zina zathu. Izi zitha kubwera ngati magazini kapena zotsatsa pa TV zomwe zimatilimbikitsa kudya ndi kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kuti tikhale ndi 'thupi logombe' lomwe tidzawakonde.



Kapenanso mutha kumva yoga gurus ikulimbikira kuti bola tikamamwa zakumwa zobiriwira zokwanira ndikunena zitsimikiziro za tsiku ndi tsiku, tidzakhala mosangalala nthawi zonse ndipo tidzadzikonda tokha ndi ena onse momwe chilengedwe chimafunira kutero.

Ayi, ayi. Palibe mwa uthengawu womwe umatanthawuza chinthu chowonongedwa zikafika pachikondi chenicheni, chifukwa zonse ndizokonzekera kusintha.

Pankhani yophunzira kudzikonda wekha, chinsinsi ndichakuti kudzikonda nokha kumatanthauza kudzilandira nokha mosavomerezeka. Osasankha kuti muzikonda X mbali yanu ngakhale muli ndi 'zolakwika' zanu. Chifukwa mulibe zolakwika zilizonse. Ndiwe munthu yemwe akukula ndikusintha mphindi iliyonse tsiku lililonse.



Makolo a ana ang'onoang'ono amawona zosinthazi nthawi zonse, koma m'malo mokhumudwitsidwa ndi anthu ang'ono awa chifukwa chokhala opanda ungwiro, osinthika omwe angathe kukhala, makolo ndiodekha komanso odekha, podziwa kuti ana awo ali akukula motalikirapo nthawi zonse amaphunzira maphunziro, ndikuyesera kudziwa zachilendo, zosokoneza dziko lowazungulira.

Ingoganizirani ngati kuleza mtima koteroko komanso chikondi chopanda malire adatembenuzidwira kwa iwo eni.

Muzidzikondera Nokha Ndipo Dzilandireni Momwe Mungakonderere Mwana Wanu Womwe

Palibe kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pathu ndi ana zikafika pakukula kwaumwini, kupatula kuti tili ndi udindo wambiri komanso tsitsi lathupi. Nthawi zonse tiyenera kuphunzira maluso ndi malingaliro atsopano, kukambirana madera atsopano, ndikulimbana ndi ziwopsezo zamavuto ochokera mbali zonse.

Tadzazidwa ndi nkhani zoipa padziko lonse lapansi, tiyenera kulimbana ndi mavuto aubwenzi, mavuto azaumoyo, ndi sewero kuntchito… nthawi yonseyi tikudzilankhulitsa tokha chifukwa cha kulakwitsa kulikonse komwe tazindikira.

M'malo mowona tambala ngati mwayi wophunzirira ndikudzikhululukira tokha chifukwa chokhala anthu osalimba kuyesera kuyendetsa moyo wathu momwe tingathere, nthawi zambiri timagonjetsedwa kudzinyansitsa ndi kudziimba mlandu chifukwa chosakhala 'wangwiro'. Titha kulakwitsa pantchito, kumenya nkhondo ndi anzathu chifukwa cholumikizana molakwika, kudzida tokha chifukwa chopeza mapaundi ochepa kapena kulimba mtima kuti titseke mizere yakuseka kapena miphumi pamphumi.

Kodi aliyense wa ife ali wokhululuka kosalekeza kwa omwe timamukonda monga momwe timadzikondera tokha?

Ganizirani zodzilankhulira zoipa zomwe mungachite tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe mungayankhulepo ndi mwana? Ndi munthu wamtundu wanji amene angakhale wankhanza komanso wankhanza kwa munthu wosakhwima amene akungoyesera kusokoneza moyo wawo momwe angathere?

Ichi chitha kukhala lingaliro lovuta kwa iwo omwe alibe ana, koma ngakhale anthu omwe sakulera anthu ang'onoang'ono ayenera kuti adakumana ndi chikondi chopanda malire, chosaweruza. Mwana wagalu watsopano yemwe amagundana pansi samachita izi chifukwa cha nkhanza, koma chifukwa sanaphunzire malamulo oti adzipumitse panja. Adzakhala ndi ngozi nthawi zina, kapena mwina kudzaponyera pansi ngati akuchita mantha kapena kuchita mantha, koma mwayi ndi womwewo zikachitika, sadzakwiya kapena kumenyedwa, koma adzatonthozedwa ndikulimbikitsidwa.

Mwinanso mungakonde (nkhani ikupitirira pansipa):

Kuvomereza Kwamakhalidwe Abwino, Osayerekezera ndi Ena

Palibe wina padziko lapansi wofanana ndendende ndi inu, ndipo pomwepo pali chuma chodabwitsa. Yemwe muli, ndi zomwe muyenera kupereka, ndinu wapadera kwambiri , ndipo sangafanane ndi wina aliyense. Nthawi zonse. Limenelo ndi lingaliro losintha mdziko lomwe nthawi zonse limatifananitsa ndi malingaliro omwe ena amamva kuti tiyenera 'kuyesetsa kukhala, koma Pepani, ayi. Palibe amene ali wamkulu kapena wocheperapo kuposa wina aliyense, ndipo sitingadzifananitse ndi ena. Siife, sitili iwowo.

chifukwa amachoka akayandikira

Nthawi zina titha kulimbikitsidwa ndi anthu ena kuti achitepo kanthu m'miyoyo yathu, koma osati m'njira yomwe inganyozetse zomwe tili kapena kutipangitsa kuganiza kuti tingakhale achimwemwe kapena opambana ngati titakhala ngati iwo.

Mwachitsanzo, tinene kuti nthawi zonse mumafuna kuyambitsa bungwe lopanda phindu, ndipo wina amene mumamukonda adachitanso chimodzimodzi. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, yang'anani momwe apangira njira yawo, koma osayesa kuwatsanzira. Mutha kuyamikira kupambana kwawo ndikuyesera kutengera bizinesi yanu pawokha, bola ngati musadziimbe mlandu chifukwa chosatsatira ndendende.

Kodi mzanu adataya gulu lolemera ndipo tsopano akuwoneka kuti amadzidalira? Chabwino ndiye. Kuyesetsa kupita kumalo ochitira masewera olimbitsa thupi pafupipafupi kuti mukhale olimba komanso athanzi ndikwabwino, koma kumbukirani kuti chilichonse chomwe mumawona pamawailesi yakanema ndichopendekera kwambiri anthu amawonetsa mbali zawo zochititsa chidwi pagulu, ndipo samakonda kutulutsa zoipa zonse zomwe zikuzungulira .

Pazinthu zonse zomwe timawona kuti ndizabwino, pali mithunzi yambiri yobisika yomwe imalowa m'makona. Ndi anthu ochepa okha omwe amawonetsa zithunzi za khungu lawo lomwe likutha pambuyo pochepetsa thupi, kapena zithunzi zawo atatopa kwambiri atagwira ntchito maola 18 kwa mwezi umodzi kuti bizinesi yawo ichoke pansi.

Pokhudzana ndi ubale wathu ndi anthu ena, tikhoza kudzinena tokha chifukwa chosakhala bwenzi kapena bwenzi labwino, ndikukhumba tikadakhala ngati ena omwe timawadziwa.

Titha kudzipeputsa tokha chifukwa chokhala ndi zopinga monga nkhawa kapena kukhumudwa, zomwe nthawi zina zimatipangitsa kusiya zibwenzi kapena kukhumudwitsa anzathu. Ngakhale okondedwa athu akumvetsetsa za ife m'malo mopeza zonse kungokhala chete ndi kudzimvera chisoni, kudziyesa wekha kukhoza kuyambitsa zovuta, zomwe zimapangitsa kudzidalira kuti kuthe.

Ambiri a ife tikhoza kukhala ndi ziyembekezo za mtundu wa munthu yemwe tiyenera kukhala, chifukwa ndi omwe makolo athu, abwenzi, kapena abale athu, ndipo ali bwino kwambiri kuposa ife, sichoncho? Kuyenerera chikondi? Chifundo? Mukumvetsa?

Tikadzilandira tokha mopanda malire, modekha komanso moyamikira, titha kukhala oyamika mbali iliyonse ya moyo wathu. Kudzida tokha chifukwa umunthu wathu, machitidwe athu, kapena matumba athu akanthawi osagwirizana ndi miyezo ya 'ungwiro' ya anthu ena ikuwoneka ngati kuwononga nthawi ndi mphamvu modabwitsa, sichoncho?

Apanso timatembenukira ku lingaliro lodzikonda tokha mopanda malire, monga momwe tingafunire ana athu. Nthawi zina zimathandiza ngati timadziyesa tokha momwe tinkakhalira tili ana, ngakhale zitakhala kuti zimatanthauza kukumba zithunzi zakale kuyambira tili ana ndikutumiza zina mwazinyumbazi. Nthawi iliyonse mukayamba kudziganizira nokha, yang'anani yemwe munali muli ndi zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi kapena zisanu ndi ziwiri, ndipo mutetezeni mwanayo musalole aliyense kunena kapena kuchita chilichonse chomunyoza kapena chankhanza kwa mwana ameneyo, chifukwa mawu amenewo akhoza kuwononga zambiri kuposa momwe ambiri akudziwira.

Moyo ndi wovuta zowopsa komanso zokongola, ndipo pamapeto pake, titha kukhala omwe tili, ndikuchita zonse zomwe tingathe.