Momwe Mungaganizire Musanalankhule

Kodi munanenapo kanthu kena kamene munanong'oneza nazo bondo pambuyo pake?

Inde muli nawo.

Aliyense wakhala.



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Kodi mudalankhulapo mawu kwa inu zomwe mumalakalaka sizikananenedwa?

Inde muli nawo.



Aliyense wakumanapo ndi izi.

Tilibe ulamuliro pazomwe ena amatiuza. Koma tili ndi mphamvu zambiri pazomwe timawauza.

Mawu athu akhoza kulimbikitsa kapena kuwononga. Zolankhula zathu zimatha kulimbikitsa kapena kutsegulira mawu. Zomwe timanena zitha kuchiritsa kapena kuvulaza.



Kodi pali njira zina zomwe sitidzanong'oneza bondo ndi mawu omwe timalankhula? Njira zina zomwe tingakonzere zomwe tikunena?

Mwamwayi, malankhulidwe athu amatha kusintha kwambiri potsatira lamulo limodzi losavuta: ganiza usanalankhule.

Zomwe ndi zophweka kunena. Koma timachita bwanji izi mwanjira yothandiza?

Chabwino, ngati cholinga ndikuganiza musanalankhule, ndikufuna ndikupatseni chidule chomwe chingakuthandizeni kuchita izi.

M'malo mwake, ili pafupi kwambiri ndi mawu oti 'kuganiza.' Ndi mawu T-H-A-N-K-S.

Tonsefe timathokoza ngati mawu omwe atilankhula anali ochezeka komanso okoma mtima. Momwemonso, ena amathokoza ngati mawu athu ndi zabwino komanso zopindulitsa.

Chifukwa chake tiyeni tiwone mawu achidule T-H-A-N-K-S, ndikuwona momwe zingatithandizire kupewa kunena zomwe tsiku lina tidzayese.

T = Zoona

Timayamba ndi mawu owona. Ndi zomwe mukufuna kunena zoona? Ngati sichoncho, ndibwino kungokhala chete.

Mukudziwa bwanji kuti ndi zoona?

Ngati mukungobwereza zomwe mwamva, ndizosavuta. 'John wandiuza kuti abwera mochedwa mawa.'

Simukuneneratu za kubwera kwa Yohane. Simukunena kuti John azachedwa kapena ayi. Mukungonena chabe John anati abwera mochedwa mawa.

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Ndiye zomwe mukunena ndi zoona.

Koma nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kuposa izi. Tikamanena kuti tikudziwa kanthu kena ndi kowona, tiyenera kukhala otsimikiza kuti ndichowonadi.

Kodi chidziwitso chimachokera kuti? Kodi gwero ndi lodalirika? Tili otsimikiza kuti tamva molondola? Kodi awa ndi malingaliro athu omwe tikupereka ngatiowona? (lingaliro: pang'ono kuganiza mozama amathandiza pazochitika izi)

Ngati tikunena china chake za munthu wina, nkofunika kwambiri kukhala wolondola ndi woona. Miseche ndi mphekesera zimakula bwino pazinthu zolakwika kapena zonama zomwe sizabodza.

Osakhala wodziwitsa zabodza. Onetsetsani kuti zomwe mukunena ndi zolondola. Onetsetsani kuti ndi zoona.

Kotero ngati simukudziwa, fufuzani. Ngati simukutsimikiza, fufuzani kawiri. Ngati mukudziwa kuti sizowona, osanena.

H = Zothandiza

Kunena zoona sikokwanira. Timafunanso kuyankhula zomwe zili zothandiza.

Tikufuna kuti zinthu zizikhala bwino chifukwa cha zomwe tidanena. Tikufuna kulankhula mawu omwe amathandiza m'malo molepheretsa.

Pali njira zosawerengeka zomwe tingalankhulire mawu omwe ndi othandiza.

Zachidziwikire, nthawi zina zokambirana zathu zimangokhala pazokambirana zaubwenzi zomwe zimangotipeza. Kugawana zonse zomwe zimalola anthu kudziwa momwe tikukhalira kapena zomwe tikukonzekera.

Koma ngakhale pokambirana koteroko, mawu athu ayenera kuthandizira mwanjira ina. Ngati palibe china koma kutsimikizira munthu winayo kuti ali otetezeka ndi ife ndipo atha kukhala omwe atizungulira.

A = Kutsimikizira

Ngakhale zokambirana zathu siziyenera kukhala gawo lodzikweza, mawu athu akuyenerabe tsimikizirani omwe tikulankhula nawo.

Povomereza sindikutanthauza kupereka ziyamiko. Ngakhale kuyamikiridwa kumatsimikizira. Sindikulankhula za zokambirana zapakati pa anthu. Ngakhale nthawi zina timafunikira imodzi ndipo ena amawafuna.

Zomwe ndikulankhula ndikuyankhula ndi anthu ena m'njira yoti muwatsimikizire kuti ndianthu oyenera ulemu.

Mumayankhula nawo ngati momwe amafunira. Osati kwa inu nokha, koma kwa mtundu wa anthu.

Kodi mumachita bwanji izi? Njira zingapo.

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  • Lankhulani nawo ngati mumawakonda monga munthu

Tonsefe timafuna kumva kutsimikiziridwa. Tonsefe timafuna kukhulupirira ndikumverera kuti ndife ofunika mwanjira inayake.

Aliyense amene mumalankhula naye adzafuna kutsimikiziridwa monga momwe mungafunire. Choncho atsimikizireni kudzera m'mawu omwe mumalankhula.

Mwinanso mungakonde (nkhani ikupitirira pansipa):

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N = Zofunikira

Ichi ndiye chovuta kwambiri pa 6 kuyenda. Kodi china chake ndi liti zofunikira kunena? Kodi ndizothandiza liti? Kodi ndizovulaza liti?

Zina zimakhala zomveka…

Ngati wina akukonzekera kuyendetsa galimoto kunyumba atamwa kwambiri, mudzafunika kulankhula nawo mwachindunji ndi kuwauza kuti sikuli bwino kapena kwanzeru kuyendetsa galimoto mkhalidwe wawo. Mawu oterewa sangayamikiridwe, koma ndiofunikanso.

Nthawi zina, timasankha kulankhula mawu omwe amangokhala osafunikira, ayi zovulaza . Mwinamwake osati mwanjira ina yogwirika, yakuthupi. Koma zimamuvulaza munthuyo mwamaganizidwe kapena malingaliro.

Ndiwo maziko osatsutsa osasintha. Kudzudzula komwe kwachitika kwambiri kuti phindu la wokamba nkhani kuposa womvera. Ndizosavuta kuzitsutsa. Ndizovuta kwambiri kutsimikizira.

Kodi ndizofunikadi kuuza munthu wina kuti, 'Umachedwa nthawi zonse'? Kodi izi zimawalimbikitsa kuti azisunga nthawi? Ayi sichidziwika.

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Ndibwino kungowakumbutsa kuti ndikofunikira kukhala munthawi yomwe angathe kuchitapo kanthu.

Kodi ndizofunikadi kuuza munthu wina kuti, 'Sudzakhala kanthu kalikonse'? Kodi izi alimbikitseni mwanjira ina? Ayi sichoncho.

Zingakhale bwino bwanji kuwatsutsa kuti apange bwino. Kutchula kusintha komwe kungakhale kopindulitsa. Ndi kuzichita modekha komanso mosamala.

Chofunikira pakufunika ndikudzifunsa nokha musanalankhule kuti, 'Kodi izi ndizofunikira?'

Kungofunsa funso nthawi zambiri kumapereka yankho labwino. Ngati kuli kofunikira, pitirizani kunena. Ngati sichoncho, sungani nokha komwe kuli koyenera.

K = Mtundu

Mwinamwake mwazindikira kuti dziko lathuli ndi loipa kwambiri kuposa kale. Pali udani wochuluka m'masiku ano kwakuti ndizodabwitsa kuwona anthu pabwalo akulankhula mokoma mtima ndi ena. Makamaka kwa omwe amawatsutsa.

Kaya winayo ndi mnzanu wapamtima, mnzake, mnzake, kapena mdani, mutha kuyankhula nawo mokoma mtima. Ndipo muyenera. Palibe chomwe chingapindulidwe mwanjira ina.

Mawu okoma ndi mawu aulemu. Ndiwo mawu omwe sonyezani ulemu . Mawu okoma amangirira osati opasula. Amalimbikitsa ndikupangitsa tsiku la munthu wina kapena ngakhale ulendo wawo wamoyo kukhala wosavuta komanso wosangalatsa.

Mawu okoma ndi omasuka kuyankhula. Zimangofunika kuyesetsa pang'ono kuti munene zinthu mokoma mtima osati china chosuliza, chankhanza, chankhanza, kapena chankhanza .

Zanenedwa kuti mawu ndi aulere. Ndi momwe mumagwiritsira ntchito zomwe zitha kukuwonongerani.

Mawu okoma mtima ndi othandiza, oganizira ena, aulemu, komanso ochezeka. Mawu okoma mtima ochokera kwa mlendo atha kupanga kwenikweni tsiku la munthu. Khalani munthu yemwe amapereka mawu okoma.

Monga mwambi umati:

Monga munthu m'modzi sindingathe kusintha dziko lapansi, koma nditha kusintha dziko la munthu m'modzi.

Khalani omwe amasintha dziko la munthu m'modzi kudzera m'mawu anu okoma.

S = Wodzipereka

Chiyeso chomaliza cha 'kuthokoza' musanalankhule ndi kudzipereka. Kuwona mtima ndikofanana ndi kuwona mtima, koma sikofanana.

Kunena zowona ndiko kunena zomwe zili zoona. Kukhala woona mtima ndikulankhula zomwe zili chenicheni. Ndikosavuta kukhala owona popanda kukhala owona mtima. Zimakhala zovuta kukhala woona mtima osakhala wowona mtima.

Pangozi yoti awonongeke, maloya komanso andale nthawi zambiri amalankhula mawu owona koma osadzipereka. Mawu awo ndi achilungamo mpaka kufika poti sakunama. Mawu awo ndi achinyengo chifukwa amasokeretsa mwadala kapena kunamiza.

Pali maloya ambiri abwino, owona mtima, komanso owona mtima. Andale andiponso. Koma chinyengo ndi kusawona mtima ndizofala pakati pawo.

Tikakhala oona mtima, tikhoza kunena zinazake zosakhala zowona, koma cholinga chathu ndichabwino.

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Pali nthawi yochita zachilungamo. Nthawi imeneyo nthawi zambiri munthu wina akakufunsani. Nthawi zina timatha kukhala achilungamo popanda kukhala owona. Izi zimachitika nthawi zonse.

Wina akakufunsani zaumoyo wanu ndipo mumamuyankha mwachikondi, 'chabwino.' Pamene kunena zoona simukuchita bwino panthawiyi.

Wina akhoza kufunsa zomwe mumakonda, ndipo mumawapatsa moona mtima. Muli ndi zokonda, koma modzipereka mumupatsa mwayi winayo mwayi wosankha.

Nthawi zina mawu athu olimbikitsa amakhala osatsimikizika 100% komabe amakhala owona mtima 100%. Timauza wina kuti zonse zikhala bwino, pomwe pansi pamtima tikudziwa kuti sizikhala choncho. Osachepera momwe iwo akuganizira kuti zidzakhalira.

Nthawi zina timadzipereka molondola chifukwa chakuona mtima komanso kukoma mtima. Zimapangitsa dziko kukhala malo ochezeka.

Mapeto

Nditseka ndi ditty yemwe amatenga gawo lofunikira pakulankhula kwathu.

Ndiye musawone ngati chinthu chachabe,
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Mtima ukhoza kuchira kapena kusweka.

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