Kutengeka ndi Chikondi: Kusiyanitsa 11 Komwe Kumawasiyanitsa

Chikondi ndi kutengeka ndizofanana m'njira zina, koma mukawavula, ndizosiyana kwambiri.

Onsewa ndi malingaliro amphamvu omwe mumamva kwa munthu wina, ndipo kungakhale kosavuta kuwasokoneza…

… Koma chikhalidwe chakumverera kumeneku si chinthu chimodzimodzi ayi.





Mwachidule, kutengeka ndikumakhala munthawi yochepa yomwe ambiri aife timadziwa tikasokonezedwa kwathunthu ndi malingaliro athu.

Nthawi zambiri timatengeka ndi winawake chibwenzi chikangoyamba kumene, ndipo kapangidwe kake ka kugonana ndi gawo lalikulu.



mkazi akasiya mwamuna amamukonda

Kutengeka kungatanthauze kuti tilephera kukhala ndi mwayi wopanga zisankho zabwino, tayambitsidwa khungu ndi mahomoni am'mbali mwathu.

Muthanso kukopeka ndi munthu yemwe simukugonana naye.

Tangoganizirani zaphokoso zonse zomwe mudali nazo muli wachinyamata zomwe zidachitika m'mutu mwanu.



Mbali inayi, chikondi ndi pamene mumakondana kwambiri ndi munthu wina, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimabwezedwa.

Tsopano, musandimve molakwika, kutengeka sikuli koipa nthawi zonse.

Ngati mumavomereza kuti ndi chiyani ndipo musadzitsimikizire kuti mukukondana, ndiye kuti zitha kukhala zosangalatsa, zosangalatsa, komanso zokumana nazo kwambiri kuti mudzayang'ananso pang'ono osakhulupirira zikadzatha.

Pokhapokha ngati kusiyana pakati pa chikondi ndi kutengeka kumakhala kovuta kuti zinthu zitha kukhala zovuta.

Ngakhale kutengeka kumakhala kanthawi kochepa komanso kosakhalitsa, ndipo nthawi zambiri kumatha, kumatha kukhala chikondi pakapita nthawi.

Tsoka ilo, anthu ena amathamangira ku zibwenzi kapena ngakhale banja osapatsa nthawi yomwe akuyenera kukhazikitsa.

Pokhapokha atakhala ozama kwambiri ndipamene amazindikira kuti sanakondane kwenikweni, koma amangogwidwa ndi malingaliro awo, osatha kuwona bwino.

Ndipo kumbukirani, izi sizinthu ziwiri. Chikondi sichingakhale chongopeka.

Kuphatikiza apo, kutengeka sikofunikira pakupita pachikondi.

Ngati anthu awiri akumana ndikupanga chibwenzi m'malo mongoyambitsa chibwenzi nthawi yomweyo, amatha kudumpha gawo lonyengerera ndikupanga kukondana kwenikweni.

Ngati mukuvutikabe kuti mutu wanu uziyang'ana pomwe pali mzere pakati pa chikondi ndi kutengeka, kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa ziwirizi kuyenera kukuthandizani kuti mumvetsetse.

1. Kutengeka ndikofunika, chikondi chimaleza mtima.

Kutengeka ndikokhudzana ndi mphindi ino.

Muyenera kukonzekera kwa munthuyo pompano. Ndizo zonse zomwe mungaganizire.

Mumakhala ndi nkhawa ngati sakuyankha mauthenga anu nthawi yomweyo.

Zonsezi ndizazikulu kwambiri.

Chikondi, kumbali inayo, chimatanthauza kuti mumakhulupirira, ndipo mutha kumasuka, podziwa kuti kupatula usiku kapena sabata sikumapeto kwa dziko lapansi.

Simukufuna chidwi chawo mphindi ino. Simukuyang'ana kwathunthu pano komanso pano, koma mukuyembekezera tsogolo limodzi.

2. Kutengeka ndi kwachinyamata, chikondi chimadza ndi msinkhu.

Izi ndizofala, ndipo munthu amatha kukopeka ndi msinkhu uliwonse, koma malingaliro opambanitsa omwe timakhala nawo ngati achinyamata nthawi zambiri samakhala chikondi chenicheni.

Timakonda kwambiri wina ndi mnzake ndipo amakhala likulu la dziko lathu lapansi.

Ngati mungatengeke ndi munthu wina mtsogolo, zimatha kumva kuti mwabwerera kusukulu yasekondale, osadziwa choti muchite kapena kunena, komanso osatha kuganizira china chilichonse.

Koma, pamene tikukula, ndizotheka kuti, bola ngati atero munthu woyenera , kutengeka kumakula kukhala chikondi, m'malo motentha.

3. Kutengeka kumakhala kosavuta, ndipo chikondi chimadzipereka.

Ngati mumangokopeka ndi winawake, kumverera koteroko kumatha kuchoka tsiku limodzi kapena mphindi ina kupita ku lotsatira.

China chake chomwe amachita kapena kunena chitha kupha mwadzidzidzi chikhumbo chomwe mumawakonda.

Chikondi sichingasweke mosavuta.

Zachidziwikire, nthawi zonse pamakhala zovuta zogwirira ntchito, koma ndinu odzipereka kuyika kuyesetsa kofunikira, ndipo malingaliro anu sangazimitsidwe ngati mpopi.

4. Kutengeka ndikosasamala, chikondi chimaganiziridwa.

Kutengeka kungakupangitseni kuti muzichita zinthu zomwe, m'maganizo anu abwino, sizingakukhudzeni.

Mumapanga mosasamala, ndikulimbikitsa kusankha kwakanthawi, ndipo zonse zitha kuwoneka ngati zikupanga kapena kusweka.

Chikondi chimakhazikika. Silingasankhe zinthu mwakufuna kwake. Zimatengera nthawi kupanga zisankho, ndipo ndife ofunitsitsa kuyesetsa pang'onopang'ono kuti muthe kupeza yankho.

Mwinanso mungakonde (nkhani ikupitirira pansipa):

5. Kutengeka ndikodzikonda, chikondi sichidzikonda.

Mukatengeka ndi winawake, ngakhale zingawoneke ngati mumakonda kwambiri iwo , kwenikweni ndizokhudza inu .

Mukufuna kuti akwaniritse zosowa zanu ndi zokhumba zanu.

Mukamakonda munthu, zosowa zake ndizofunikira monganso zanu.

Mumaganizira mmene akumvera musanachite chilichonse.

6. Kutengeka ndikokuyendetsa, chikondi chimakhazikika.

Kutengeka ndi winawake kumakhala kosangalatsa kwambiri.

Ndiwowongolera mosasunthika wamaganizidwe, ndipo simudziwa nthawi yayitali komanso yotsika ikubwera.

moyo wanga ndi wotopetsa komanso wosungulumwa

Mutha kumva kukhala osangalala kwathunthu, ndiyeno, mphindi zisanu pambuyo pake, opanda kanthu.

Chikondi, kumbali inayo, sichiyenera kukhala chapamwamba komanso chotsika.

Anthu ena amasowa chisangalalo cha kutengeka akakhala paubwenzi wolimba, koma ambiri a ife timaphunzira kuyamikira chisangalalo chodabwitsa ndi kukhazikika kwa chikondi chenicheni.

7.Kutengeka ndi kwakanthawi, ndipo chikondi chimatha.

Kutengeka mtima kumatha kukugwerani mosayembekezereka ndipo nthawi yomweyo kumangodya zonse. Itha kukhala kwakanthawi, koma sichinthu chomwe mungasunge kwamuyaya.

Chikondi sichiyenera kukhala kwamuyaya kuti chikhale chenicheni. Anthu amatha kusintha.

Koma ngati mukulira limodzi, mudzawona kuti mumakondana kwambiri ndikamakula.

8. Kutengeka ndi nsanje, ndipo chikondi chimakhulupirira.

Izi sizingakhale zoona nthawi zonse, koma nthawi zambiri, anthu omwe akukumana ndi kutengeka adzatero kumva zowawa za nsanje .

Chikondi chiyenera kukhazikitsidwa pakukhulupirirana, kutanthauza kuti sipayenera kukhala nsanje pakati pa anthu awiri omwe amakondanadi.

9. Kutengeka nthawi zambiri kumakhala kwakuthupi, ndipo chikondi chimaposa pamenepo.

Nthawi zina, sungafotokoze chifukwa chomwe umakondera wina. Koma, kawirikawiri, kutengeka kumayamba ngati kukopa kwakuthupi, ndipo sikungapitirire pamenepo.

Chikondi, kumbali inayo, chimaphatikizapo kukongola kwakuthupi, koma ndikumvana kwamalingaliro ndi luntha pakati panu komwe kumapangitsa mgwirizano wanu kukula.

10. Kusakhalapo kumapangitsa chidwi chenicheni kutha, ndipo chikondi chimakula.

Ngati mwasiyana ndi munthu amene mumakopeka naye, kucheza nthawi yayitali ndikukhala patali kwambiri ndi wina ndi mnzake kungatanthauze kuti malingaliro amenewo amafooka, kapena amatha konse.

Zingakhale zokhumudwitsa kwambiri mukangonena zabwino, koma pang'onopang'ono mumayiwala za izo ndipo malingaliro anu amapita kuzinthu zina.

Mosiyana ndi izi, ngati ndi chikondi chenicheni, ndiye kuti kusakhaladi kumapangitsa mtima kukula. Zomverera sizidzatha zidzalimbitsa ndikukula.

11. Mosiyana ndi kutengeka, chikondi chimatulutsa zabwino mwa iwe.

Ganizirani za nthawi zomwe mwakhala mukutengeka kale. Kodi mudachitapo zomwe simukunyadira?

Kodi mwawerenga mameseji kapena maimelo?

Kodi mwawasiya anzanu onse kuti mutha kukhala nthawi yanu yonse ndi munthuyo?

Kodi munayamba kunyalanyaza ntchito yanu?

Pomwe kutengeka kumatha kukupangitsani kuchita zinthu zosemphana ndi malingaliro anu abwinoko, ngati muli pachibwenzi, ndiye kuti munthuyo amatulutsa zabwino mwa inu.

Mukuganiza kuti ndiabwino kwambiri ndipo mukufuna kukhala oyenerera chikondi chawo, ndipo amakupatsani mphamvu zomwe mukufunikira kuti mukhale mtundu wabwino kwambiri wa inu.

Ndi chikondi?

Ngati pali winawake wapadera m'moyo wanu pompano ndipo mukuyesera kuyika chala chanu pazomwe mukumva kwa iwo, mukutsimikiza kuti mwazindikira ubale wanu m'mawu ena pamwambapa.

Chofunika kwambiri ndikuti mukhale oona mtima kwa inu nokha. Mverani m'matumbo anu, ndipo khulupirirani.

Mutha kusangalala mukamakopeka ndi winawake, ndipo mutha kuphunzira zambiri za inu nokha…

… Koma ngati ndi zomwe mukumva, simuyenera kukhala ndi chiyembekezo chambiri chokhudzana ndi chibwenzi kapena kupanga mapulani akulu mtsogolo.

Ingomusangalatsani mukamatha.

Simudziwa zomwe zingachitike ngati tengani zinthu pang'onopang'ono . Itha kukhala yachikondi, ubale wabwino , koma mwina ayi.

Nthawi zonse ndibwino kuti mudziteteze ku zopweteketsa mtima mpaka mutakhulupilira kuti zitha kupita kwina.

Ngati simukudziwa momwe mukumvera, ndiye kuti nthawi yayitali kupatula chinthu chomwe mumakonda chiyenera kukuwuzani zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa.

Simukudziwa ngati ndi chikondi kapena kutengeka kumene mukukumva? Kambiranani pa intaneti ndi katswiri wokhudza ubale wa Relationship Hero yemwe angakuthandizeni kuzindikira zinthu. Mwachidule.

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