Kodi Kudziwonetsera Kokha Ndi Chiyani Ndipo Chifukwa Chiyani Kuli Kofunika Kwambiri?

Kudziwonetsera wekha ndiyo njira yopita ku ufulu. - Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche

Mwina mumayang'ana pagalasi masiku ambiri ndipo mumazolowera mawonekedwe anu pafupifupi mawonekedwe ena onse.

Koma mumawona kangati mkati kuti mumudziwe bwino umunthu wanu wamkati?





Ichi ndiye chimake cha mawonekedwe anu: kudziwa momwe mumagwirira ntchito komanso momwe mumadziwira mawonekedwe anu akunja.

Kudziwonetsera nokha ndi njira yomwe mumakulitsa kumvetsetsa kwanu kuti ndinu ndani, zomwe mumayendera, komanso chifukwa chomwe mumaganizira ndikuchita momwe mumachitira.



Ndi mawonekedwe owunikira omwe amakulolani kuti musinthe moyo wanu kuti ugwirizane ndi zomwe mukufuna.

Tiyeni tiwone chida chofunikira ichi mopitilira muyeso, kuyambira ndi chifukwa chake muyenera kuchichita.

Kufunika Kodzisinkhasinkha

Ulendo wakudzikonda nokha ndikudzivomereza nokha uyenera kuyamba ndikudziyesa. Mpaka mutenga ulendo wodziwonetsera nokha, ndizosatheka kukula kapena kuphunzira m'moyo. - Iyanla Vanzant



Kudziwonetsera wekha - komwe kumatchedwanso kuzindikira - ndi njira yodziyang'anira ndikudzifufuza kuti ukule monga munthu.

Kukula kumeneku ndi chifukwa chake kuli kofunika kwambiri kukhala ndi nthawi yoganizira panokha.

Podziwa kuti ndinu ndani tsopano komanso omwe mungafune kukhala, mumathandizira kuzindikira njira zomwe muyenera kuchita paulendowu.

Kuganizira momwe mumakhalira komanso malingaliro omwe amalowa m'malingaliro anu potengera zochitika padziko lapansi zimakupatsani mwayi wowona zomwe mukuyenera kusintha.

Mwina munali wamfupi pang'ono komanso wokwiya ndi mnzanu wantchito.

Poyang'ana m'mbuyo pa izi, mutha kuzindikira kuti umu si momwe mungakonde kuchitiridwira, chifukwa chake, si momwe mungafune kuchitira ena.

Mutha kuyesetsa kuthana ndi khalidweli mtsogolo ndipo mwina ndikupepesa kwa mnzako ngati ukanakhala wamwano kapena wopanda chifundo.

Izi zitha kubweretsa mgwirizano wogwirira ntchito ndi munthuyu komanso tsiku losangalatsa kwambiri pantchito.

Kuti muwonetse kufunikira kapena kudziwonetsera nokha, muyenera kungoganiza zosankha zina.

Ngati simungazindikire komwe mukadachita modandaula, mosakayikira mudzachitanso chimodzimodzi.

Mwa chitsanzo chathu, izi zimangowonjezera kupwetekedwa mtima komwe mungakumane nako chifukwa chakumangika pantchito komanso zovuta zomwe zingachitike pambuyo pake.

Nthawi yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito posinkhasinkha inunso ndi mwayi woyezera kupita kwanu patsogolo.

Mutha kuzindikira nthawi yomwe mwayankhapo ndi malingaliro athanzi ndi machitidwe.

Ikhoza kukupatsani chidziwitso cha kuchita bwino ndikukhalabe olimbikitsidwa pakufuna kwanu kuti mukhale bwino - komabe zomwe zikuwoneka kwa inu.

Momwemonso, kudziwonetsera nokha ndi njira yopangira njira zing'onozing'ono zochotsera pamalingaliro osafunikira komanso machitidwe awo kwa omwe amalimbikitsa kukhala ndi moyo wabwino.

Ubwino Wakuwunikira

Tsopano popeza tawona chifukwa chake kuli kofunikira kusinkhasinkha pa malingaliro ndi zochita zanu, ndi phindu lanji lomwe lingakhalepo potero?

Kulimbitsa Ubale

Monga momwe tawonera kuntchito kwathu pamwambapa, poganizira momwe mumachitira ndi ena komanso malingaliro omwe mungakhale nawo, mutha kusintha zomwe zingayambitse mgwirizano.

Ngati pali zovuta muubwenzi - zikhale zachikondi kapena zanema - mutha kuyesa momwe zinthu zilili, kufunsa zomwe mukuchita pamavutowa, ndikupeza njira zothetsera mavutowo.

Kudziwonetsera nokha kumakupatsani mpata wowona momwe mumamvera za munthu winayo ndikuwona kufunika kwakubwenzi.

Izi zitha kukupangitsani kuti mumuyamikire munthuyo zomwe zimakhudza momwe mumacheza nawo.

Kulongosola Kwakukulu Kwa Maganizo

Kuzindikiritsa kumapereka mwayi woganiza za chinthu china chodzipatula pachokha.

M'malo mokhala ndi nkhawa chifukwa cha zomwe mumakumana nazo mukamayenderana ndi chinthuchi, mutha kuchiwona mwanzeru.

Mutha kuziwona momveka bwino ndikuganizira za izo mozungulira ndi zabwino, zoyipa, ndi zina zofunika zomwe zimakuthandizani kupanga lingaliro lomveka bwino momwe mungasinthire pankhaniyi (kapena ngati simukufuna kwenikweni kusintha konse).

kudalira munthu amene wakunamizani

Mwina, mwachitsanzo, chinthucho ndi chisankho monga ntchito yomwe mumatenga. Ngati simukukonda ulendo wautali momwe muliri, mwina simungathe kuwona zabwino zomwe zimabweretsa panthawi yopita.

Koma pobwerera ndikulingalira za izo patsiku lopuma, mutha kuzindikira kuti ngakhale sizosangalatsa, zabwino za ntchito yomwe muli wokonda kwambiri kapena malipiro omwe mumalandira amathandizira kuti ulendowu ukhale waphindu.

Zingasinthe momwe mumamvera paulendo wanu kapena momwe mumasankhira nthawiyo.

Kudziwa Makhalidwe Abwino

Mudzapeza zovuta kudzidziwa nokha mpaka mutakhala ndi nthawi yoganizira zomwe zili zofunika kwa inu.

Mukadzilingalira, mutha kuwona zinthu zomwe mumachita kapena kuganiza zomwe zikutsutsana ndi zomwe mukufuna kukhala.

Mutha kulingalira zofunikira zomwe timakumana nazo pamoyo ndikupanga zolimba.

Nthawi zina, mpaka mutakhala pansi ndikuganiza za chinthu china, simungathe kusankha kuti muime pati.

Izi zitha kukhudza nkhani zamakhalidwe osiyanasiyana monga ufulu wakudzipha kapena kuteteza zachilengedwe.

Kapenanso zingakuthandizeni kudziwa mfundo zomwe mungakonde kutsatira.

Kudziwonetsera nokha ndiyo njira yomwe kampasi yanu yamakhalidwe ingapangidwire ndikuwunikiridwa kuti muzitha kuchita zomwe mukuchitazo.

Zitha kukuthandizani kuti musamadzitayike m'moyo komanso kukhala ndi mphamvu zopanga tsogolo lomwe liziwonetsa zikhulupiriro zanu zazikulu

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Kupanga Maganizo Olondola

Timapanga zisankho mazana tsiku lililonse, koma zambiri ndizochepa ndipo titha kusiyira zathu malingaliro osazindikira .

Koma zikafika pazisankho zofunika kwambiri pamoyo, kuwunika pang'ono kwaumwini ndikofunika kwambiri.

Zimabwereranso pakumveka momveka bwino ndikumvetsetsa mfundo zanu zenizeni.

Ndi zinthu ziwiri izi, mutha kupanga zisankho zomwe zimakupatsani mwayi wokhala ndi thanzi labwino.

Izi zikutanthauza kuti kuchepa pang'ono kapena mwayi womwe mwaphonya komanso kukhala ndi mtendere wamumtima podziwa kuti mwasankha bwino.

Kugona Bwino

Mukamakhala ndi kanthawi kochepa tsiku lililonse poyang'ana m'mbuyo pazomwe zachitika komanso momwe mumayankhira, zitha kubweretsa kutseka kwa malingaliro osasinthidwa.

Izi zitha kukuthandizani osati kokha kugona mofulumira , koma kukhala ndi tulo tofa nato tulo 'mwambiri.

Chokhacho chokha pa izi ndikuti muyenera kupewa kupewa kulingalira kuti kusanduke phokoso.

Ganizirani za tsiku lanu, koma tsegulani tsambalo ndikulola malingaliro anu kuti ayambirenso tsiku lotsatira. Musamangokhala pamalingaliro kwa nthawi yayitali.

Mwinanso mungakonde (nkhani ikupitirira pansipa):

Kupanikizika Kwambiri Ndi Kuda Nkhawa

Chimodzi mwazotsatira zazikulu zakusinkhasinkha kwanu ndikudzidziwa nokha bwino ndikuti mumadzidalira nokha komanso zochita zanu.

Mumapeza kutsimikizika kwambiri m'dziko lino losatsimikizika chifukwa wakhazikika momwe mumadzionera.

Ndikutsimikiza kwakukulu kumabweretsa kupsinjika ndi nkhawa zochepa.

Simumadandaula za 'bwanji ngati' ndikuyang'ana kwambiri pazomwe mungachite kuti mugwirizanitse zochita zanu ndi mfundo zomwe takambirana pamwambapa.

Nanunso osadandaula za zomwe anthu ena angaganize za inu ndi zisankho zanu chifukwa mukudziwa kuti mukuchita zomwe zili zoyenera kwa inu.

Momwe Mungadziwonetsere Nokha

Tsopano popeza mukudziwa chifukwa chake kuli kofunika kudziyesa pawokha komanso zabwino zomwe zingabweretse, tiyeni tiwone momwe mungachitire izi.

Pezani Kukhala Pazokha

Kuti muthe kuganiza bwino, muyenera kukhala m'malo abata komanso amtendere.

Izi zikutanthauza kukhala panokha, ngakhale sikuti kukhala wekha kwathunthu mwakuthupi, koma malo oti simudzasokonezedwa ndi anthu komanso zinthu zokuzungulirani.

Malo abwino mnyumba monga kusuta, kusamba kofunda, kapena kungogona pa bedi lanu ndibwino, koma mungathenso kukhala m'munda kapena paki ngati izi zikuthandizani kulingalira.

Funsani kuti 'Chifukwa chiyani?'

'Chifukwa' ndicho chinthu choyamba kuganizira.

Chifukwa chiyani mumachita momwe mumachitira?

Chifukwa chiyani mukuganiza momwe mumaganizira?

Izi zitha kukhala zokhudzana ndi chochitika china tsikulo, kapena kungakhale kusaka kwakukulu pazifukwa zamalingaliro kapena zizolowezi zina zomwe mwawona kuti ndizofala.

Ena 'chifukwa' ndi osavuta kuyankha. Muyenera kuti mudakalipira mwana wanu chifukwa inu ndi mnzanu mudakangana posachedwa.

Ena 'chifukwa' ndi kovuta kuyankha. Kunena zifukwa zomwe mumamvera kapena kutsutsana ndi malamulo okhwima a mfuti sikuli kosavuta nthawi zonse.

Funsani kuti 'Chiyani?' 'Kuti?' Ndi 'Ndani?'

Mafunso otsatirawa omwe mukufuna kufunsa ndikuyankha mukamaliza 'chifukwa' chanu ndi omwe amakudziwitsani momwe mungaganizire kapena kuchita mtsogolo.

Amazungulira mafunso atatu oyambira awa:

Ndikadakhala kuti ndikadachita chiyani mosiyana?

Kodi ndikufuna kufika kuti?

Kodi ndikufuna kukhala ndani?

Awa ndiwo maziko amafupipafupi, mafunso olondola omwe mungafunse kutengera mtundu wanji wa zomwe mukuganizira.

Nazi zitsanzo:

- Ndikadakhala kuti ndikadachita chiyani abwana akundinyoza pamaso pa anzanga?

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- Ndikufuna kukhala pati potengera ubale wanga mzaka zingapo zikubwerazi?

- Ndimayang'ana kwa ndani?

- Ndingayankhe bwanji kwa munthu amene samandichitira zabwino chifukwa cha mtundu wanga?

- Ndikufuna kugwira ntchito maola angati? (ili ndi funso 'pati' ngakhale limayamba ndi 'motani.')

- Kodi zomwe ndikudya pakadali pano zikuwonetsa malingaliro anga pankhani zankhanza za nyama? (ili ndi funso la 'ndani')

Funsani kuti 'Motani?'

Mukazindikira china chake chomwe mukufuna kusintha, mudaganizira chifukwa chomwe mukuchitira pakadali pano, ndipo mwaganiza malo omaliza oyenera, muyenera kufunsa kuti mupita bwanji kumeneko.

Ndi zinthu ziti zomwe mukufunikira kuti muyambe kuchita kapena kusiya kuchita kuti mufike pamalingaliro kapena machitidwe anu asintha momwe mungafunire?

Mwanjira ina, ndi njira iti yomwe ingakufikitseni kuchokera ku A (komwe muli pano) kupita ku B (komwe mungakonde)?

Dzipatseni Nokha Nthawi, Koma Dziwani Nthawi Yoyimira

Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, njira yodziwonetsera yokha imatha kuyika chiopsezo pochepetsa kapena kuganiza mopitirira muyeso.

Tikalola kuti lingaliro lizizungulira m'maganizo mwathu mobwerezabwereza popanda njira yothetsera vutoli, timataya zabwino zonse zowonekera mkati mwathu ndipo pamapeto pake tikhoza kuwononga thanzi lathu.

Chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kukhazikitsa malire pakukhala kwanu mukuganiza mwakachetechete.

Mutha kukhala ndi nthawi yochulukirapo, kapena mungonena kuti ndi nthawi yoti muime mukakhazikika munthawi yamaganizidwe.

Ndipo nthawi yakwana, chinthu chabwino kuchita ndikusamukira kwina kulikonse.

Ichi ndichifukwa chake sichabwinobwino kuganiza bwino pogona musanagone.

Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire mugone pabedi, koma chitani bwino tsiku lanu lisanathe kapena nthawi ina iliyonse pomwe kugona sikuli pafupi.

Kuti musiye kusinkhasinkha kwamkati, yesani kumiza nokha ndikuyang'ana pa china chake kupatula zinthu zomwe mumaganizira.

Chilichonse chomwe chingasokoneze malingaliro anu kutali ndi zomwe mumaganizira.

Ganizirani Kulemba Malingaliro Anu

Anthu ena atha kuwona kuti ndiwothandiza kulemba manotsi a malingaliro awo pamene akudziganizira okha.

Kulemba muzolemba ndi njira yotchuka yochitira izi chifukwa imasunga chilichonse pamalo amodzi ndikulola kuti muyang'ane kumbuyo zomwe mudaganizapo kale kuti musunge panjira yoyenera.

Izi zitha kukhalanso zothandiza ngati zikukuvutani kusiya lingaliro lina. Mukazilemba ndikusungidwa bwino, mutha kupeza kuti malingaliro amatha kuzisiya mosavuta osawopseza kuti angaiwale.

Lankhulani ndi Katswiri

Ngakhale anthu ambiri mwina safunikira kuchita izi, ena atha kuwona kuti kukambirana ndi wothandizira ndi njira yothandiza kwambiri pokonzekera malingaliro awo ndi momwe akumvera.

Monga katswiri wodziwa bwino ntchito, wothandizira amatha kuthandizira kuwongolera malingaliro anu pazinthu zofunika kwambiri pamoyo wanu komanso mavuto omwe mungakumane nawo.

Angakuthandizeninso kuganizira zomwe mungachite kuti musinthe zomwe mukufuna kuchita.

Mutha kuwona kuti kuyankhula ndi munthu wina m'malo mongodzipangira nokha kumakutopetsani malingaliro anu ndikuthandizani kuti musasinthe momwe mumaganizira.

Kodi Ndingatani Ngati Sindikusangalala Nawo?

Kusinkhasinkha kwabwino kumakonda kupatsa mphamvu komanso kumalimbitsa munthu pamene akuwona njira zowongolera.

Koma izi sizikhala choncho kwa aliyense.

Ngati mukuvutikadi kuti mumvetse ndondomekoyi kapena mukupeza kuti ikubweretsa zovuta zina m'mbuyomu, kubetcha kwanu bwino ndikulankhula ndi wothandizira.

Simunalephere ngati muyenera kutero pemphani thandizo . Mwakwanitsa kuzindikira kuti mumafunika kutero.

Mwamuna ayenera kupeza nthawi yakeyake. Nthawi ndi zomwe timakhala moyo wathu. Ngati sitisamala timapeza ena akutigwiritsa ntchito.

Ndikofunikira nthawi ndi nthawi kuti munthu azipita yekha ndikukhala wosungulumwa kukakhala pathanthwe m'nkhalango ndikudzifunsa yekha, 'Ndine ndani, ndakhala kuti, ndikupita kuti?'

Ngati wina sasamala, amalola zosangalatsa kuti zitenge nthawi yake - zinthu za m'moyo.- Carl Sandburg